Wanna leave a romantic note for your crush? Don't be afraid, go ahead! Read on to learn how to with confidence.
Steps
1. Before you go to school, maybe at night, take a piece of paper and write something romantic for your crush.
2. Make the note sound mysterious.
3. When class ends go to your locker and prentend to be looking through it, packing, etc. for a long time till there is little or no one left.
4. Make sure that nobody sees what you are doing.
5. Go to your crush's locker and put the paper into it.
6. The next day, go back to class and wait for your crush to go to the locker, your crush will see the note and get curious!
Tips
· Wait for any opportunity to put it in your crush's locker.
· Remember that the best opportunity is when nobody is near.
· Keep the paper hidden very well until the best time to put the romantic note in your crush's locker.
· If you don't have lockers, slip it in one of his/her books, in his/her desk or just slipped simply onto his/her chair, although make sure no one can read it, turn it upside down if it helps.
Warnings
· Be careful, don't let anyone see you, unless you want to be caught.
· Be careful not to let anyone take the paper and see what's in there.
· Make sure you go to the right locker and not someone elses.
· Some newer lockers do not have any way to insert the note into the locker except to open it. Don't open it, it is an invasion of privacy. It is better not to leave the note at all.
Friday, August 8, 2008
How to Win a Girl's Heart
Many men struggle each day watching the love of their life flock around with other guys knowing that you are the person that really does love her. Jealousy, hatred, and a feeling of loss might all come to life during this time. But what you need to do is win that person's heart.
Steps
1. Courage Most girls like guys with confidence. Just walk up to her and start a simple conversation. (Example: "Hi, waiting for a friend?") If you didn't get it the first time, try and try again.
2. Prove that you really love her and are not simply crushing or lusting for her. Ask her about herself, talk to her, don't just move in for the kiss.
3. Care for Her: Ask her about her day. It's a simple way to show her that you are interested in what she does. When she starts to talk, you must give her your full attention. Look her in the eye and don't check annyone else out! And most importent of all, don't interupt!
4. Send mixed signals. Yeah, it's a bit childish but necessary. One day call her and compliment her, then don't call or speak to her for two days. She'll wonder why you haven't called, which means you'll be on her mind. Never go so far as to compliment her one day and make fun of her the next. Subtlety is key.
5. Don't tell girls - for that matter, anyone at all - they have a flaw unless you are OBVIOUSLY poking fun at them, even then only if you know they can take a joke, and know you well enough to know how to react to your teasing. Otherwise you risk putting them off.
6. Show respect to other girls too. When she will realize that other girls take interest in you then she will automatically get to the point where you want her to be.
7. Make sure to be good friends with her friends. If her friends like you, chances are she will.
Tips
· Be a man: walk, talk and act with confidence. Be a leader. Offer her the security you can provide.
· Don't be petty: Don't complain about trivial things.
· Be exciting: always talk with vigor and energy, no matter what it is.
· Be playful: tease her a little, and when she teases you come right back at her with something funny. It's like two puppies wrestling. Very fun.
· Take pride: Dress well and be clean. Don't litter.
· Don't interrupt. Show a respect for everything and everyone. Be a good guy, understanding.
· Lastly and most importantly: Respect her above all else. She is special and unique. Don't stand for even your closest friend insulting her whether right or wrong. After all, you love her, don't you? Good luck.
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§ Also***, her left side is more emotional than her right, so flirt with her while standing on her left side.
· You should try to make her laugh... girls love a funny guy (trust me i am one)!!
Warnings
· Don't push it. If she says no, accept that.
· Do not cheat on her. You may never win her heart back and you could emotionally scar her and prevent her from wanting to be in a relationship again.
· Understand that people change. She might be all that now, but later you may not be interested.
· DO NOT try and share the same interests as the girl all the time. Sometimes girls like men who are different to them. This is why it is ALWAYS important to be yourself!
· Never put all your eggs in one basket, unless ready for a devoted marriage or prolonged relationship. Understand you may get burned.
Steps
1. Courage Most girls like guys with confidence. Just walk up to her and start a simple conversation. (Example: "Hi, waiting for a friend?") If you didn't get it the first time, try and try again.
2. Prove that you really love her and are not simply crushing or lusting for her. Ask her about herself, talk to her, don't just move in for the kiss.
3. Care for Her: Ask her about her day. It's a simple way to show her that you are interested in what she does. When she starts to talk, you must give her your full attention. Look her in the eye and don't check annyone else out! And most importent of all, don't interupt!
4. Send mixed signals. Yeah, it's a bit childish but necessary. One day call her and compliment her, then don't call or speak to her for two days. She'll wonder why you haven't called, which means you'll be on her mind. Never go so far as to compliment her one day and make fun of her the next. Subtlety is key.
5. Don't tell girls - for that matter, anyone at all - they have a flaw unless you are OBVIOUSLY poking fun at them, even then only if you know they can take a joke, and know you well enough to know how to react to your teasing. Otherwise you risk putting them off.
6. Show respect to other girls too. When she will realize that other girls take interest in you then she will automatically get to the point where you want her to be.
7. Make sure to be good friends with her friends. If her friends like you, chances are she will.
Tips
· Be a man: walk, talk and act with confidence. Be a leader. Offer her the security you can provide.
· Don't be petty: Don't complain about trivial things.
· Be exciting: always talk with vigor and energy, no matter what it is.
· Be playful: tease her a little, and when she teases you come right back at her with something funny. It's like two puppies wrestling. Very fun.
· Take pride: Dress well and be clean. Don't litter.
· Don't interrupt. Show a respect for everything and everyone. Be a good guy, understanding.
· Lastly and most importantly: Respect her above all else. She is special and unique. Don't stand for even your closest friend insulting her whether right or wrong. After all, you love her, don't you? Good luck.
o
§ Also***, her left side is more emotional than her right, so flirt with her while standing on her left side.
· You should try to make her laugh... girls love a funny guy (trust me i am one)!!
Warnings
· Don't push it. If she says no, accept that.
· Do not cheat on her. You may never win her heart back and you could emotionally scar her and prevent her from wanting to be in a relationship again.
· Understand that people change. She might be all that now, but later you may not be interested.
· DO NOT try and share the same interests as the girl all the time. Sometimes girls like men who are different to them. This is why it is ALWAYS important to be yourself!
· Never put all your eggs in one basket, unless ready for a devoted marriage or prolonged relationship. Understand you may get burned.
How to Stop Liking Your Crush
It's often tough to pull away from that feeling you're having, but it is possible. It's also necessary for your mental health.
Steps
1. Whenever you start thinking about a part of your crush's body, (e.g eyes, hair, smile etc.) try and alter it into something simply horrifying. Try looking at a picture of him, and then focus on his nose. Then, imagine it exploding, and having mucus shoot out everywhere. Or you can remember their stinky breath or bad B.O (who likes someone who smells like they don't brush their teeth or shower?)
2. Whenever you start remembering a good time you had with him/her, convince yourself it wasn't all that great by remembering a much better time you experienced with someone else.
3. Cross out or erase his/her name anywhere you might have written it (e.g your notebook, your textbook, the wall of your bedroom, etc.)
4. The more you come in contact with him/her, the harder it is to stop your feelings. Try and avoid seeing that someone as much as possible, no matter HOW bad you feel you need to see them.
5. If you were once dating, or you know that he/she also had a crush on you, you should write the person a letter to get your feelings out and to (softly) explain why you think you should avoid each other, and that you need space.
6. If your crush is really an obsession but he/she doesn't know that you exist, so much the better. You can just avoid him/her without any formality.
7. Focus on your other interests. The more you're thinking about something (or someone) else, the less you'll think about your crush.
8. If you want to develop a crush on another guy/girl as a coping strategy, just do the opposite of the first seven steps.
9. Stop looking at his myspace page every five minutes. If it's a done deal and you're never getting back together with them again, consider deleting his/her off your friends list. You might need to explain to him/her why you are doing this.
10. Another thing that is helpful is just think of all the flaws of your crush has, and focus on them as much as you can until you eventually gross yourself out, and can't bear to look at him without regurgitating your lunch.
11. Think about something he/she did that was disgusting or turned you off (ex. picking food out of his/her teeth in front of you, picking his/her nose in public...etc)
Tips
· It helps if you can tell a friend who knows about your affliction. Explain why you don't want this crush anymore, and your friend will help you deal with it. He/she might even know another person who has a crush on you that you could go out with.
· Try and develop another crush. Say you always enjoyed the company of that girl/boy in your art class. Talk to him/her. Learn about him/her. You may find that person just as hot, maybe even hotter, than your old crush.
Warnings
· If your crush has a mutual crush on you, be careful! You could break his/her heart. Try to talk with him/her about how you feel first, if you can. If not ask if he/she wants to be really close friends.
Things You'll Need
· An open mind
· A strong will
Steps
1. Whenever you start thinking about a part of your crush's body, (e.g eyes, hair, smile etc.) try and alter it into something simply horrifying. Try looking at a picture of him, and then focus on his nose. Then, imagine it exploding, and having mucus shoot out everywhere. Or you can remember their stinky breath or bad B.O (who likes someone who smells like they don't brush their teeth or shower?)
2. Whenever you start remembering a good time you had with him/her, convince yourself it wasn't all that great by remembering a much better time you experienced with someone else.
3. Cross out or erase his/her name anywhere you might have written it (e.g your notebook, your textbook, the wall of your bedroom, etc.)
4. The more you come in contact with him/her, the harder it is to stop your feelings. Try and avoid seeing that someone as much as possible, no matter HOW bad you feel you need to see them.
5. If you were once dating, or you know that he/she also had a crush on you, you should write the person a letter to get your feelings out and to (softly) explain why you think you should avoid each other, and that you need space.
6. If your crush is really an obsession but he/she doesn't know that you exist, so much the better. You can just avoid him/her without any formality.
7. Focus on your other interests. The more you're thinking about something (or someone) else, the less you'll think about your crush.
8. If you want to develop a crush on another guy/girl as a coping strategy, just do the opposite of the first seven steps.
9. Stop looking at his myspace page every five minutes. If it's a done deal and you're never getting back together with them again, consider deleting his/her off your friends list. You might need to explain to him/her why you are doing this.
10. Another thing that is helpful is just think of all the flaws of your crush has, and focus on them as much as you can until you eventually gross yourself out, and can't bear to look at him without regurgitating your lunch.
11. Think about something he/she did that was disgusting or turned you off (ex. picking food out of his/her teeth in front of you, picking his/her nose in public...etc)
Tips
· It helps if you can tell a friend who knows about your affliction. Explain why you don't want this crush anymore, and your friend will help you deal with it. He/she might even know another person who has a crush on you that you could go out with.
· Try and develop another crush. Say you always enjoyed the company of that girl/boy in your art class. Talk to him/her. Learn about him/her. You may find that person just as hot, maybe even hotter, than your old crush.
Warnings
· If your crush has a mutual crush on you, be careful! You could break his/her heart. Try to talk with him/her about how you feel first, if you can. If not ask if he/she wants to be really close friends.
Things You'll Need
· An open mind
· A strong will
How to Forget About Your Impossible Crush
So you've met someone you like but you know it will never work out. Maybe you'll never see them again, maybe they're just don't feel the same way about you. To cope with this:
Steps
1. Acknowledge that you have been rejected or that they are not interested in you.
2. Don't take it personally. You may never know why the other person rejected you. It could be for any reason, you just might not be their type.
3. Think about what that person did to you. That person rejected you. That person doesn't want to be with you, so why do you want to be with someone who doesn't even appreciate you?
4. Being close to someone can stir emotions. Try to avoid them whenever possible. If you really can't stand not seeing them for a day, then quickly glance at them for a few seconds from a VERY FAR DISTANCE. Avoid making eye contact, as that can make you change your mind, too.
5. If your crush is in a relationship with another person, don't go making life miserable for your crush or their significant other. It won't make you feel any better, and it could very well get you pegged as "That psycho girl."
Alternate Method
1. Admit you have a crush on the person and allow yourself to feel it. If you don't, you are at risk for "Romeo and Juliet Syndrome". The forbidden love possibility becomes more attractive.
2. Spend time with the person. You will see their negative qualities, which will be beyond what you can bear if you're not meant to be.
· Look at them closely. Find the physical flaws. And then think... "He/She's not that hot! What am I thinking?!" And find someone that YOU can get, and still be friends with your crush.
· Just stop talking to them! They aren't important. They are probably with a person who doesn't appreciate them ONE BIT.
Tips
· Talk to people you can trust about how you feel. Be honest with yourself. Try and figure out what exactly attracted you about this person and use the opportunity to learn more about yourself.
· Just wait it out. New people will come along, they always do. It hurts to get rejected, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.
· Remember that everyone has had at least one impossible crush in a lifetime. Be careful not to fall into believing that because one person doesn't want you, you are bound to end up miserable and alone. This is simply not true.
· Often, in retrospect people will look back to their impossible crushes and say "Ugh! What did I ever see in them?" You have built up your crush to be this image of perfection, but be realistic and accept their flaws. If you get rejected outright, be grateful for the honesty; now you can move on without asking yourself "what if?" If the other person is too spineless to reject you outright, ask yourself if you'd really want to be with a person like that anyway... probably not.
· Travel somewhere. It might help you get that person out of your mind.
· Make friends. Meet other people. Hang out with them, and have fun so you won't be thinking of that person all day!
· Ask your close friends what the flaws on that person are. Sometimes you like a person so much, you won't even see that!
· It isn't always possible, but try and find a new guy/girl. Look at that person and try and find qualities that are better then your old crush.
· Find a reputable mental health professional and speak with them. They may be able to offer you a wealth of advice.
· Sometimes listening to music helps. Relation to artist's emotions can really help you deal with someone you just can't have. Coldplay, The Fray etc. are excellent ways to deal with love or loss.
· If you're not likely to see them again and they don't know you like them (if you met them whilst on holiday for instance) forget them. That's easier said than done, but try not to dwell on it as there is no point wasting your life moping about somebody who has probably forgotten all about you. Remember that you may not have really got to know them, and may not have liked them so much if you did, so in reality you perhaps have a crush on an imaginary person based on a brief meeting with someone you were attracted to.
Warnings
· Try not to get too depressed. It will be hard, but remember that life keeps going and it's better to go at the same speed.
· This can lead to real depression. Sometimes it's better to leave it and rely on hope for that small chance.
· Don't stay alone for too long, you'll get bored.
· Don't keep thinking of the person. The more you think about them, the more likely you are to stay attached to them.
· Don't become bitter! Just because the person doesn't like you in that way doesn't mean you can be unfriendly towards them. Don't let your pride get wounded! Sometimes people just aren't right for one another! It says nothing about who you are.
· Don't let your self-esteem drop. You are still a wonderful person who deserves to be loved; this just wasn't the one who could love you in that way. You will find many though who can. So keep faith in yourself!
Steps
1. Acknowledge that you have been rejected or that they are not interested in you.
2. Don't take it personally. You may never know why the other person rejected you. It could be for any reason, you just might not be their type.
3. Think about what that person did to you. That person rejected you. That person doesn't want to be with you, so why do you want to be with someone who doesn't even appreciate you?
4. Being close to someone can stir emotions. Try to avoid them whenever possible. If you really can't stand not seeing them for a day, then quickly glance at them for a few seconds from a VERY FAR DISTANCE. Avoid making eye contact, as that can make you change your mind, too.
5. If your crush is in a relationship with another person, don't go making life miserable for your crush or their significant other. It won't make you feel any better, and it could very well get you pegged as "That psycho girl."
Alternate Method
1. Admit you have a crush on the person and allow yourself to feel it. If you don't, you are at risk for "Romeo and Juliet Syndrome". The forbidden love possibility becomes more attractive.
2. Spend time with the person. You will see their negative qualities, which will be beyond what you can bear if you're not meant to be.
· Look at them closely. Find the physical flaws. And then think... "He/She's not that hot! What am I thinking?!" And find someone that YOU can get, and still be friends with your crush.
· Just stop talking to them! They aren't important. They are probably with a person who doesn't appreciate them ONE BIT.
Tips
· Talk to people you can trust about how you feel. Be honest with yourself. Try and figure out what exactly attracted you about this person and use the opportunity to learn more about yourself.
· Just wait it out. New people will come along, they always do. It hurts to get rejected, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.
· Remember that everyone has had at least one impossible crush in a lifetime. Be careful not to fall into believing that because one person doesn't want you, you are bound to end up miserable and alone. This is simply not true.
· Often, in retrospect people will look back to their impossible crushes and say "Ugh! What did I ever see in them?" You have built up your crush to be this image of perfection, but be realistic and accept their flaws. If you get rejected outright, be grateful for the honesty; now you can move on without asking yourself "what if?" If the other person is too spineless to reject you outright, ask yourself if you'd really want to be with a person like that anyway... probably not.
· Travel somewhere. It might help you get that person out of your mind.
· Make friends. Meet other people. Hang out with them, and have fun so you won't be thinking of that person all day!
· Ask your close friends what the flaws on that person are. Sometimes you like a person so much, you won't even see that!
· It isn't always possible, but try and find a new guy/girl. Look at that person and try and find qualities that are better then your old crush.
· Find a reputable mental health professional and speak with them. They may be able to offer you a wealth of advice.
· Sometimes listening to music helps. Relation to artist's emotions can really help you deal with someone you just can't have. Coldplay, The Fray etc. are excellent ways to deal with love or loss.
· If you're not likely to see them again and they don't know you like them (if you met them whilst on holiday for instance) forget them. That's easier said than done, but try not to dwell on it as there is no point wasting your life moping about somebody who has probably forgotten all about you. Remember that you may not have really got to know them, and may not have liked them so much if you did, so in reality you perhaps have a crush on an imaginary person based on a brief meeting with someone you were attracted to.
Warnings
· Try not to get too depressed. It will be hard, but remember that life keeps going and it's better to go at the same speed.
· This can lead to real depression. Sometimes it's better to leave it and rely on hope for that small chance.
· Don't stay alone for too long, you'll get bored.
· Don't keep thinking of the person. The more you think about them, the more likely you are to stay attached to them.
· Don't become bitter! Just because the person doesn't like you in that way doesn't mean you can be unfriendly towards them. Don't let your pride get wounded! Sometimes people just aren't right for one another! It says nothing about who you are.
· Don't let your self-esteem drop. You are still a wonderful person who deserves to be loved; this just wasn't the one who could love you in that way. You will find many though who can. So keep faith in yourself!
How to Talk to Your Crush Without Being Crushed
Have a crush, but wimp out every time you want to say something to them? You're probably afraid of rejection or that you'll do something stupid. While your chances may be small, they will be zero if you don't do anything.
Steps
1. The only way to over come your nervousness is from with in. Before blabbering, think about what you want to say. Take your time but don't take too long. Find a comfortable moment to say. Remember take your time, say what you have to say, don't scream. (Summary: Be comfortable to overcome this obstacle.) *For how to win a girl's heart click here
2. Practice in the mirror. You'll want to make sure you know what you're going to say.
3. Approach your crush when he or she is alone, in a casual situation.
4. Introduce yourself and tell them a little about yourself. The important thing is to start a conversation.
5. Ask your crush about himself or herself. Try some simple questions: "What teachers do you have?" "Where do you like to hang out?" "What music do you listen to?" But, don't make it an interrogation. Just talk to them like you would talk to anyone else.
6. If you're not as nervous as some people, ask this person if they would like to hang out with you sometime, to get coffee, or go to a movie; maybe even go to dinner for something to eat.
Tips
· If your crush tries to run before class ends, take this as a hint that you need to quit; that she's/he's not interested.
· If she/he doesn't seem to want to talk to you, she/he either doesn't like you or is shy around you. Be sure which one it is before continuing.
· Practice what you're going to say or you will panic, which you shouldn't do.
· After you know what your crush likes, ask them to go with you to a place she or he would really like (such as a concert featuring his or her favorite singer).
· Don't think the worst; always think the best.
· If your conversation doesn't go as planned, don't give up, try again (that's if he/she responded at least once or twice).
· Find something that you both are interested in before you start to talk to him/her.
· Don't change for them. If you tell them you hate math and they love math, continue to hate math. People like someone who is to his or her self. Remember no one wants to date themselves. Don't mirror their likes and dislikes because it won't work.
Warnings
· Don't freak out.
· If he/she doesn't seem to get used to you, then leave him/her alone for one day, and on the next day, come up to him/her again and change the topic.
· Your crush may not feel the same way about you. In that case, you have to move on. They may change their mind later, but you have to live your life.
· If your ex wants to stay friends, and you don't, tell him/her. Don't fake being friends just for his/her sake.
· Don't get your friends to do it for you. Do it yourself.
· Don't ever talk to him/her because sometimes they don't know who you are and you want to be noticed
· Make sure that when you talk your voice isn't shaky and that you feel perfectly calm.
Things You'll Need
· Confidence
· Courage
· Your personality
· Yourself
Steps
1. The only way to over come your nervousness is from with in. Before blabbering, think about what you want to say. Take your time but don't take too long. Find a comfortable moment to say. Remember take your time, say what you have to say, don't scream. (Summary: Be comfortable to overcome this obstacle.) *For how to win a girl's heart click here
2. Practice in the mirror. You'll want to make sure you know what you're going to say.
3. Approach your crush when he or she is alone, in a casual situation.
4. Introduce yourself and tell them a little about yourself. The important thing is to start a conversation.
5. Ask your crush about himself or herself. Try some simple questions: "What teachers do you have?" "Where do you like to hang out?" "What music do you listen to?" But, don't make it an interrogation. Just talk to them like you would talk to anyone else.
6. If you're not as nervous as some people, ask this person if they would like to hang out with you sometime, to get coffee, or go to a movie; maybe even go to dinner for something to eat.
Tips
· If your crush tries to run before class ends, take this as a hint that you need to quit; that she's/he's not interested.
· If she/he doesn't seem to want to talk to you, she/he either doesn't like you or is shy around you. Be sure which one it is before continuing.
· Practice what you're going to say or you will panic, which you shouldn't do.
· After you know what your crush likes, ask them to go with you to a place she or he would really like (such as a concert featuring his or her favorite singer).
· Don't think the worst; always think the best.
· If your conversation doesn't go as planned, don't give up, try again (that's if he/she responded at least once or twice).
· Find something that you both are interested in before you start to talk to him/her.
· Don't change for them. If you tell them you hate math and they love math, continue to hate math. People like someone who is to his or her self. Remember no one wants to date themselves. Don't mirror their likes and dislikes because it won't work.
Warnings
· Don't freak out.
· If he/she doesn't seem to get used to you, then leave him/her alone for one day, and on the next day, come up to him/her again and change the topic.
· Your crush may not feel the same way about you. In that case, you have to move on. They may change their mind later, but you have to live your life.
· If your ex wants to stay friends, and you don't, tell him/her. Don't fake being friends just for his/her sake.
· Don't get your friends to do it for you. Do it yourself.
· Don't ever talk to him/her because sometimes they don't know who you are and you want to be noticed
· Make sure that when you talk your voice isn't shaky and that you feel perfectly calm.
Things You'll Need
· Confidence
· Courage
· Your personality
· Yourself
How to Deal With a Crush (for Guys)
When dealing with a crush, it's important you make sure that the girl in question can't find out about it (unless you think she feels the same way about you).
Steps
1. Don't give her any signs that you are desperately in love, but try to get to know her or even be friends. She won't like or date you if she doesn't know you.
2. If you're interested in getting a date with this girl, stay calm. Don't make a fool of yourself.
3. Get help from a friend that you believe is the most trustworthy; tell him your problem and pay attention to any advice he gives you. Since he's not in love, he's probably more clear-headed than you.
4. Act cool and collected around her. Try to pay attention to your appearance and look nice, but don't overdo it. Just be yourself.
5. Stay clean. You don't want her to think you're a slob. Make sure you smell good - no expensive cologne needed, just don't reek. Whatever you do, don't wear a ton of anything scented -especially stuff like AXE. Girls get sick of this. Believe me. The commercials about girls attacking you are wrong.
6. Before you try to talk to her, have a mental outline of what you're going to say. Know your topic, what you want to say about it, and what you want to ask her about it. Yes, you have to ask her questions, otherwise you are simply talking at her and you look dumb.
7. When dealing with a girl that has had a recent break-up, let her know that she has your support and that she can talk to you, but don't go overboard. You have to make sure that you don't sound like you are going to force her to cry on your shoulder.
8. Be confident! Girls like a guy that's confident. Be yourself no matter how hard it may seem. Sit next to her when you can! Most girls will like that...
Tips
· Keep cool; drink some water. Try to see the bigger picture and stop obsessing.
· Don't have a watery mouth. Nobody likes people spitting at them. That is a major turn off!
· Try to sound like you have emotions too, but again, don't go overboard. When she shuts her finger in her locker, instead of saying "Hmph..." or something like "Oh my gosh, are you okay?! Ambulance, someone call 911! she might have broken her finger! (bursts into tears)" Just ask if she's okay, sounding worried, but not panicked.
· Bring some peppermints around with you. She's not going to want to talk to you if your breath smells like the bad end of a donkey!
· Know what she likes. Don't dress in ripped-up clothing if she likes things to be neat. However, you still need to be yourself, and remember, the clothes DON'T make the man, but they can help.
Warnings
· Be prepared to be called names. Most people will find out about this. Don't sweat it, and don't say, "At least I can get a girl; you still have troubles getting a guy/girl!"
· Do not wear cheap sprays like AXE or TAG. Most girls can't stand them! You should try to find out if your crush likes that scent. If she does like it and try wearing it. You really can't go wrong.
Things You'll Need
· A crush
· Good, comfortable clothing
· Good Hygiene
· The ability to be yourself
· Confidence
Steps
1. Don't give her any signs that you are desperately in love, but try to get to know her or even be friends. She won't like or date you if she doesn't know you.
2. If you're interested in getting a date with this girl, stay calm. Don't make a fool of yourself.
3. Get help from a friend that you believe is the most trustworthy; tell him your problem and pay attention to any advice he gives you. Since he's not in love, he's probably more clear-headed than you.
4. Act cool and collected around her. Try to pay attention to your appearance and look nice, but don't overdo it. Just be yourself.
5. Stay clean. You don't want her to think you're a slob. Make sure you smell good - no expensive cologne needed, just don't reek. Whatever you do, don't wear a ton of anything scented -especially stuff like AXE. Girls get sick of this. Believe me. The commercials about girls attacking you are wrong.
6. Before you try to talk to her, have a mental outline of what you're going to say. Know your topic, what you want to say about it, and what you want to ask her about it. Yes, you have to ask her questions, otherwise you are simply talking at her and you look dumb.
7. When dealing with a girl that has had a recent break-up, let her know that she has your support and that she can talk to you, but don't go overboard. You have to make sure that you don't sound like you are going to force her to cry on your shoulder.
8. Be confident! Girls like a guy that's confident. Be yourself no matter how hard it may seem. Sit next to her when you can! Most girls will like that...
Tips
· Keep cool; drink some water. Try to see the bigger picture and stop obsessing.
· Don't have a watery mouth. Nobody likes people spitting at them. That is a major turn off!
· Try to sound like you have emotions too, but again, don't go overboard. When she shuts her finger in her locker, instead of saying "Hmph..." or something like "Oh my gosh, are you okay?! Ambulance, someone call 911! she might have broken her finger! (bursts into tears)" Just ask if she's okay, sounding worried, but not panicked.
· Bring some peppermints around with you. She's not going to want to talk to you if your breath smells like the bad end of a donkey!
· Know what she likes. Don't dress in ripped-up clothing if she likes things to be neat. However, you still need to be yourself, and remember, the clothes DON'T make the man, but they can help.
Warnings
· Be prepared to be called names. Most people will find out about this. Don't sweat it, and don't say, "At least I can get a girl; you still have troubles getting a guy/girl!"
· Do not wear cheap sprays like AXE or TAG. Most girls can't stand them! You should try to find out if your crush likes that scent. If she does like it and try wearing it. You really can't go wrong.
Things You'll Need
· A crush
· Good, comfortable clothing
· Good Hygiene
· The ability to be yourself
· Confidence
How to Deal With a Crush
Got a crush? Of course you do. Here's how to make it happen.
Steps
1.
Understand that it's going to take at least a bit of work to get there. Sometimes a lot. In order to accomplish whatever you want with you and that 'oo lala' someone, (whether it be kissing, dating, etc..) you can't expect them to just...fall for you. And that is the first step: Knowing where you stand.
2. Communicate with the person. It may feel awkward at first, but realize that if your crush thinks you're just trying to be friendly, he or she will probably want to talk to you. No matter how dumb you feel, eventually you're going to have to try starting a conversation about something you're both interested in. Don't start conversations if you don't understand them. (This sounds fairly obvious, but think about it: If you don't watch football, don't bring it up! It'll make the other person feel odd if he's doing all the talking.) After you can actually talk comfortably to him/her, they're going to get used to talking to you.
3. Use body language, but don't overdo it. If you're talking to a guy, licking your lips supposedly reminds them of kissing. Don't do this too much or they're going to think something's wrong with you. Playing with your hair a little bit might be a good thing too, but go easy on this one. Now, if you're a guy talking to a girl, make eye contact. Don't stare her down, but don't feel embarassed. Girls really like it when guys give them a little 'spark' by looking at them. For both guys and girls, smile. Sad people look like they don't want to be bothered. Smile when the person looks at you. Smile when you talk. And it doesn't have to be a huge, great grin, it just has to be 'a little something'.
4. Drop hints. If you want to hint to them you like them (after you've been chatting and all for a while...), you don't have to invite them to go somewhere with you if you're uncomfortable with that. Once you get confidence, you can hint something like, "Hey, me, soandso, whatshisname, whatshername, and a couple other people are going to Miniature Golf this weekend. Wanna come?" Realize that you shouldn't ask this as though you think they'll say no. Say it as if you want them to come for fun, and then that might give you a hint on how much they like you. Also, it'll make them feel pretty good that you're inviting them with a few of your other friends instead of just taking them by themselves. Perhaps after a few of this outings, it won't be so bad asking them on a real 'date'.
5. Be original with dates. Take them somewhere you're sure they'd love to go. If they're into basketball, get tickets to a game of your hometown team. If they love a certain restaurant and seem to bring it up in conversation a lot, take them there.
6. Know that the worst that can happen is that your crush says no. If you're getting completely negative vibes, the person is a jerk and doesn't deserve all the attention you're giving him or her.
7. If you realize after a while that you don't really want to go out with this person, you simply want to be friends, stop the flirting and other crap. Just treat them like you would any of your other friends. Then, unless they start loving you, you won't have a problem.
8. If you want to be secretive, just smile shyly at them whenever you see them. if you're a girl, smile softly and toss your hair a little. Be yourself but don't act to embarrassed. Just...go with it, and don't overdo it.
Tips
· If you're completely rejected and feel terrible, realize in a week you'll probably not care about them. If they don't want to talk to you or go out with you, they're not worth crying over.
· Every time a door closes, another one opens. If they say no to something the first time, you might get another chance after you know them better. Also, if you're rejected, there's hundreds of boys/girls out there who probably deserve you more than the person who doesn't want to be around you.
Warnings
· Don't be too persistent with the person. It's terribly annoying and they won't want to be around you.
· Be yourself. Don't lie about your accomplishments, personal items, or bands you like. You are allowed to be you. If you love rock music and they detest it, you don't have to argue with them why. If you say "I love Blink 182" and they reply, "Oh, I don't really like that band", you can respond with something like, "Eh, that's all right with me. Everyone has their own tastes."
· Don't be stuck-up.
· If the person you like is rude to everybody except for their friends, you should probably go fishing for a different crush.
· Dont be overly obsessed with your crush, it will seem like you don't have a life. Don't always talk about it either, it could get very annoying to your friends.
Things You'll Need
· Personal hygiene products
· Chocolate, in case you're broken down. This should only be needed for about two weeks after rejection...there's no way you can be so obsessed with a person who dislikes you.
· A smile goes a long way. Even if it's not a hollywood smile, it'll still lighten up the room more than the sun.
Steps
1.
Understand that it's going to take at least a bit of work to get there. Sometimes a lot. In order to accomplish whatever you want with you and that 'oo lala' someone, (whether it be kissing, dating, etc..) you can't expect them to just...fall for you. And that is the first step: Knowing where you stand.
2. Communicate with the person. It may feel awkward at first, but realize that if your crush thinks you're just trying to be friendly, he or she will probably want to talk to you. No matter how dumb you feel, eventually you're going to have to try starting a conversation about something you're both interested in. Don't start conversations if you don't understand them. (This sounds fairly obvious, but think about it: If you don't watch football, don't bring it up! It'll make the other person feel odd if he's doing all the talking.) After you can actually talk comfortably to him/her, they're going to get used to talking to you.
3. Use body language, but don't overdo it. If you're talking to a guy, licking your lips supposedly reminds them of kissing. Don't do this too much or they're going to think something's wrong with you. Playing with your hair a little bit might be a good thing too, but go easy on this one. Now, if you're a guy talking to a girl, make eye contact. Don't stare her down, but don't feel embarassed. Girls really like it when guys give them a little 'spark' by looking at them. For both guys and girls, smile. Sad people look like they don't want to be bothered. Smile when the person looks at you. Smile when you talk. And it doesn't have to be a huge, great grin, it just has to be 'a little something'.
4. Drop hints. If you want to hint to them you like them (after you've been chatting and all for a while...), you don't have to invite them to go somewhere with you if you're uncomfortable with that. Once you get confidence, you can hint something like, "Hey, me, soandso, whatshisname, whatshername, and a couple other people are going to Miniature Golf this weekend. Wanna come?" Realize that you shouldn't ask this as though you think they'll say no. Say it as if you want them to come for fun, and then that might give you a hint on how much they like you. Also, it'll make them feel pretty good that you're inviting them with a few of your other friends instead of just taking them by themselves. Perhaps after a few of this outings, it won't be so bad asking them on a real 'date'.
5. Be original with dates. Take them somewhere you're sure they'd love to go. If they're into basketball, get tickets to a game of your hometown team. If they love a certain restaurant and seem to bring it up in conversation a lot, take them there.
6. Know that the worst that can happen is that your crush says no. If you're getting completely negative vibes, the person is a jerk and doesn't deserve all the attention you're giving him or her.
7. If you realize after a while that you don't really want to go out with this person, you simply want to be friends, stop the flirting and other crap. Just treat them like you would any of your other friends. Then, unless they start loving you, you won't have a problem.
8. If you want to be secretive, just smile shyly at them whenever you see them. if you're a girl, smile softly and toss your hair a little. Be yourself but don't act to embarrassed. Just...go with it, and don't overdo it.
Tips
· If you're completely rejected and feel terrible, realize in a week you'll probably not care about them. If they don't want to talk to you or go out with you, they're not worth crying over.
· Every time a door closes, another one opens. If they say no to something the first time, you might get another chance after you know them better. Also, if you're rejected, there's hundreds of boys/girls out there who probably deserve you more than the person who doesn't want to be around you.
Warnings
· Don't be too persistent with the person. It's terribly annoying and they won't want to be around you.
· Be yourself. Don't lie about your accomplishments, personal items, or bands you like. You are allowed to be you. If you love rock music and they detest it, you don't have to argue with them why. If you say "I love Blink 182" and they reply, "Oh, I don't really like that band", you can respond with something like, "Eh, that's all right with me. Everyone has their own tastes."
· Don't be stuck-up.
· If the person you like is rude to everybody except for their friends, you should probably go fishing for a different crush.
· Dont be overly obsessed with your crush, it will seem like you don't have a life. Don't always talk about it either, it could get very annoying to your friends.
Things You'll Need
· Personal hygiene products
· Chocolate, in case you're broken down. This should only be needed for about two weeks after rejection...there's no way you can be so obsessed with a person who dislikes you.
· A smile goes a long way. Even if it's not a hollywood smile, it'll still lighten up the room more than the sun.
How to Befriend a Girl You Like
You know how awful it is not to have the courage to talk to a girl you like. Even worse, you're in a conversation but are acting stupid because of your nerves. Well, it can stop. Here's how!
1. Steps
Surprise her with a great gift!
Build self-confidence. Make a list of your strong qualities. After you're finished, read the list and realize that there are plenty of reasons why the girl would like to talk to you.
2. Introduce yourself. There are so many ways to introduce yourself. Sometimes, it's the deciding factor in a friendship. You need to find a way to meet her. You can have a friend introduce you or go to a party she goes to, but if all else fails, wait until she's alone and introduce yourself.
3. Discover her interests. Find out what she likes to do and ask her questions about it. This leads to great conversations, and she will want to talk to you more often if she knows that you're not always going to talk about football and of the sort. After a while, she will start to show interest in things that you like, and you and she will start to become friends.
4. Relax and enjoy yourself. Girls are attracted to guys who are comfortable with themselves. If you find yourself getting nervous, relax and smile. Even if you don't have anything suave to say, a good attitude can win points.
5. Be yourself. Girls don't like fake boys. If you're going to approach her, be honest. Show your real qualities, not a facade that you've worked on in an attempt to impress her.
6. Spend time together. This is a deciding stage in your relationship. Are you just a friend she sees every now and then, or are you someone she spends a lot of time with? This is the time during which you have to build your bond with her. If you don't, you will be "just another person" to her. You have to be patient, because the length of time spent in this stage varies from person to person.
7. Make your move. By now, you should be good friends - really good friends. If you're really good at this, she will probably already like you. However, regardless of whether she has told you that she does or not, you should tell her that you like her. Just tell her - don't be all passionate about it. Tell her in a discrete way, so that it won't ruin your friendship, but make sure you get the message across.
8. Take the next step. This is where it's different for every person. By now, you have either realized that you hate them, or you're even more in love. They either like you back or they don't. Whichever way it goes, you have to run with it.
Tips
· Talk to her everyday. Within a week or so, it will become an everyday thing and you can ask her out without feeling awkward. Of course, show confidence and don't get upset if she doesn't accept, just tell her you understand and walk away smiling with your head up.
· Help her when she needs you, but don't fawn over her or follow her around like a personal assistant. You need to establish mutual respect or a relationship has no chance to work.
· Give her any gift. It can be a flower or a book or just some funny trinket, so long as it lets her know you were thinking about her. Also, find out her birthday and do something particularly sweet.
· Be a gentleman.
Go get her faril!
Warnings
· After a few conversations you can start to make it obvious that you like her, but don't overdo it. Smile at her and pay compliments, give her looks and bring her gifts.
· If she has a boyfriend, don't obsess over it. You'll meet someone new, or her relationship might end.
· Even though you should talk to her every day to every other day, DON'T OVERDO IT! Try to read the signs; if whenever you start to talk to her she gets distracted, then let her have her space.
1. Steps
Surprise her with a great gift!
Build self-confidence. Make a list of your strong qualities. After you're finished, read the list and realize that there are plenty of reasons why the girl would like to talk to you.
2. Introduce yourself. There are so many ways to introduce yourself. Sometimes, it's the deciding factor in a friendship. You need to find a way to meet her. You can have a friend introduce you or go to a party she goes to, but if all else fails, wait until she's alone and introduce yourself.
3. Discover her interests. Find out what she likes to do and ask her questions about it. This leads to great conversations, and she will want to talk to you more often if she knows that you're not always going to talk about football and of the sort. After a while, she will start to show interest in things that you like, and you and she will start to become friends.
4. Relax and enjoy yourself. Girls are attracted to guys who are comfortable with themselves. If you find yourself getting nervous, relax and smile. Even if you don't have anything suave to say, a good attitude can win points.
5. Be yourself. Girls don't like fake boys. If you're going to approach her, be honest. Show your real qualities, not a facade that you've worked on in an attempt to impress her.
6. Spend time together. This is a deciding stage in your relationship. Are you just a friend she sees every now and then, or are you someone she spends a lot of time with? This is the time during which you have to build your bond with her. If you don't, you will be "just another person" to her. You have to be patient, because the length of time spent in this stage varies from person to person.
7. Make your move. By now, you should be good friends - really good friends. If you're really good at this, she will probably already like you. However, regardless of whether she has told you that she does or not, you should tell her that you like her. Just tell her - don't be all passionate about it. Tell her in a discrete way, so that it won't ruin your friendship, but make sure you get the message across.
8. Take the next step. This is where it's different for every person. By now, you have either realized that you hate them, or you're even more in love. They either like you back or they don't. Whichever way it goes, you have to run with it.
Tips
· Talk to her everyday. Within a week or so, it will become an everyday thing and you can ask her out without feeling awkward. Of course, show confidence and don't get upset if she doesn't accept, just tell her you understand and walk away smiling with your head up.
· Help her when she needs you, but don't fawn over her or follow her around like a personal assistant. You need to establish mutual respect or a relationship has no chance to work.
· Give her any gift. It can be a flower or a book or just some funny trinket, so long as it lets her know you were thinking about her. Also, find out her birthday and do something particularly sweet.
· Be a gentleman.
Go get her faril!
Warnings
· After a few conversations you can start to make it obvious that you like her, but don't overdo it. Smile at her and pay compliments, give her looks and bring her gifts.
· If she has a boyfriend, don't obsess over it. You'll meet someone new, or her relationship might end.
· Even though you should talk to her every day to every other day, DON'T OVERDO IT! Try to read the signs; if whenever you start to talk to her she gets distracted, then let her have her space.
How to Be Friends With a Girl That Rejected You
A lot of times you might talk to a girl and she ends up saying something like "you're nice, but I'm not ready to be in a relationship," or "I'm busy but I still want to be your friend." Don't feel rejected; instead, see it as a way to become closer to her.
Steps
1. Ask her why she wants to be friends and not more.
2. Find out if she really wants to be friends and is not just letting you down easy.
3. Become her friend and take it slow. She might be the one for you or may be not but You'll see how much you like this girl by how long you'll stick around.
4. Call her regularly not daily, and test to see if she is legit by not calling for about 2 days. If she calls you then she does like you.
Tips
· Don't obsess or she will flee away from you, and never be pushy.
· She knows you like her, so give her time and befriend her.
· If you become her friend and she knows you want to be in a relationship with her, then she might come around and eventually date.
· It might be a test, she might see how far you'll go for her. Just stay cool and laid back.
· Be yourself and stop trying to be her boyfriend.
· Talk to her, dont make her find out that you're sad.
· If she still doesn't like you that much, just give it up, there are tons of attractive girls out there.
Warnings
· If she says she wants to be friends and isn't much of a friend then leave this individual alone. No girl is worth allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.
· This girl is either being nice to you to not hurt you or really wants to be friends don't take anything personally.
· Every move gives you hint if she want to be your friend or if she likes you but again take it easy and move on it takes time but you have no choice.
Steps
1. Ask her why she wants to be friends and not more.
2. Find out if she really wants to be friends and is not just letting you down easy.
3. Become her friend and take it slow. She might be the one for you or may be not but You'll see how much you like this girl by how long you'll stick around.
4. Call her regularly not daily, and test to see if she is legit by not calling for about 2 days. If she calls you then she does like you.
Tips
· Don't obsess or she will flee away from you, and never be pushy.
· She knows you like her, so give her time and befriend her.
· If you become her friend and she knows you want to be in a relationship with her, then she might come around and eventually date.
· It might be a test, she might see how far you'll go for her. Just stay cool and laid back.
· Be yourself and stop trying to be her boyfriend.
· Talk to her, dont make her find out that you're sad.
· If she still doesn't like you that much, just give it up, there are tons of attractive girls out there.
Warnings
· If she says she wants to be friends and isn't much of a friend then leave this individual alone. No girl is worth allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.
· This girl is either being nice to you to not hurt you or really wants to be friends don't take anything personally.
· Every move gives you hint if she want to be your friend or if she likes you but again take it easy and move on it takes time but you have no choice.
Thursday, August 7, 2008
How to Properly Greet Someone
It is easy to establish contact with warmth, affection and an interested expression. Be open, receptive and friendly and keep up the small talk! Here are some easy steps on how to greet the people that you meet in a sincere and open way.
Note: As it stands, this article is fairly specific to an informal greeting in the US.
Steps
1. Approach the person.
2. Say "Hey, how's it going?" or something similarly friendly.
3. Shake hands.
4. Start a conversation if you like. The person might be your friend if you have a lot in common with this person.
5. The polite way of meeting someone is:
o Say, "Good Morning/Afternoon/Evening. It is nice to meet you."
o Shake hands
o Ask, "How are you?"
6. Find small talk topics. To continue the conversation, make small talk remarks about the weather, family, how far you travelled, where might be good spot for lunch etc. It isn't about making yourself appear really smart, so don't sweat the small stuff. It is about making yourself affable, personable and approachable. Keep it simple.
7. If you are new to this person, make sure you know they want to meet you too, otherwise the consequences might lead to them getting annoyed.
Tips
· Always have a smile and speak clearly and most importantly, look them right in the eye.
· If you are greeting an adult, smile politely and say hello.
· If you don't know the person's name, say "nice to meet you" or "nice to see you again".
· Or, you can ask them politely, by saying, "It is good to see you again, unfortunately I have forgotten your name." It may seem a touch impolite, but it is a lot better than saying the wrong name.
Warnings
· Don't be over-confident as it is off-putting.
· Don't approach someone who does not want to be approached (look for their body language towards you).
· Keep in mind that greetings vary by culture. While the generic Western conventions have become widespread enough that a hand offered for shaking will not be misinterpreted, be careful of the more subtle differences. For example, in Asia people draw a different line between ``eye contact and ``staring.
Note: As it stands, this article is fairly specific to an informal greeting in the US.
Steps
1. Approach the person.
2. Say "Hey, how's it going?" or something similarly friendly.
3. Shake hands.
4. Start a conversation if you like. The person might be your friend if you have a lot in common with this person.
5. The polite way of meeting someone is:
o Say, "Good Morning/Afternoon/Evening. It is nice to meet you."
o Shake hands
o Ask, "How are you?"
6. Find small talk topics. To continue the conversation, make small talk remarks about the weather, family, how far you travelled, where might be good spot for lunch etc. It isn't about making yourself appear really smart, so don't sweat the small stuff. It is about making yourself affable, personable and approachable. Keep it simple.
7. If you are new to this person, make sure you know they want to meet you too, otherwise the consequences might lead to them getting annoyed.
Tips
· Always have a smile and speak clearly and most importantly, look them right in the eye.
· If you are greeting an adult, smile politely and say hello.
· If you don't know the person's name, say "nice to meet you" or "nice to see you again".
· Or, you can ask them politely, by saying, "It is good to see you again, unfortunately I have forgotten your name." It may seem a touch impolite, but it is a lot better than saying the wrong name.
Warnings
· Don't be over-confident as it is off-putting.
· Don't approach someone who does not want to be approached (look for their body language towards you).
· Keep in mind that greetings vary by culture. While the generic Western conventions have become widespread enough that a hand offered for shaking will not be misinterpreted, be careful of the more subtle differences. For example, in Asia people draw a different line between ``eye contact and ``staring.
How to Get out of a Boring Conversation
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a boring conversation, but you can't think of a way to escape? Give this a go.
Steps
1. Pretend that you're interested. If you pretend that you are listening, chances are they will talk themselves out. Just wait for the other person to stop talking, then change the subject. No one can talk for ever, as much as it seems they can.
2. Keep moving. Walking around will show them that you're not really paying attention.
3. Drop hints. Hint that you're not interested or you have no idea what they're talking about. Comments like, "That's not really my thing", or "Sorry, I drifted off for a moment there," will discourage them from continuing. By breaking their train of thought you can successfully make them lose interest in talking.
4. Tell them you're not interested. If all else fails, just flatly saying you're not particularly interested by the topic or that you'd rather talk about something else is a guaranteed conversation stopper. Be careful how you do it though, don't hurt their feelings.
Tips
· If you don't want to outright tell them to shut up, you can pretend that someone's calling you from the other side of the room. Excuse yourself and walk off.
· Remember that if you're in a boring group conversation, walking off spontaneously is alright. Its generally more accepted that during a social gathering, you drift between conversations.
· You can always just try to change the topic.
Warnings
· Be careful when telling someone you're not interested. They may be talking to you because they're lonely, or have little experience in conversation making.
· Don't just stop talking to them and ignore them. This is mean and will make you enemies.
Steps
1. Pretend that you're interested. If you pretend that you are listening, chances are they will talk themselves out. Just wait for the other person to stop talking, then change the subject. No one can talk for ever, as much as it seems they can.
2. Keep moving. Walking around will show them that you're not really paying attention.
3. Drop hints. Hint that you're not interested or you have no idea what they're talking about. Comments like, "That's not really my thing", or "Sorry, I drifted off for a moment there," will discourage them from continuing. By breaking their train of thought you can successfully make them lose interest in talking.
4. Tell them you're not interested. If all else fails, just flatly saying you're not particularly interested by the topic or that you'd rather talk about something else is a guaranteed conversation stopper. Be careful how you do it though, don't hurt their feelings.
Tips
· If you don't want to outright tell them to shut up, you can pretend that someone's calling you from the other side of the room. Excuse yourself and walk off.
· Remember that if you're in a boring group conversation, walking off spontaneously is alright. Its generally more accepted that during a social gathering, you drift between conversations.
· You can always just try to change the topic.
Warnings
· Be careful when telling someone you're not interested. They may be talking to you because they're lonely, or have little experience in conversation making.
· Don't just stop talking to them and ignore them. This is mean and will make you enemies.
How to Make Small Talk
Small talk may be defined as a very short conversation to either; kill time, make the other person feel comfortable in your presence, get a date, discussion with a client, or just to make oneself comfortable.
Steps
1. Assess your atmosphere: Pay attention to your atmosphere (e.g. supermarket, grocery isle, drivers license office) and begin a conversation around it. However, be careful about making very personal remarks
2. Remind yourself that if you start off by praising somebody, always be honest. People can tell the difference, and dishonesty will kill the conversation.
3. Be generic: E.g.: "That is a great tie", "can you help me choose fresh parsley?" "Sorry, I could not help noticing your nice shoes", "Why don't you go ahead of me, I have more items than you."
4. Ask open ended questions. E.g.: "why did you prefer this brand over that?", "Is there another way to...?"
5. Respect the other person's space. Do not stand too close or else they will retreat into their shell. Do not stand too far, otherwise they will think you are scared of them.
6. Stand comfortably on both feet. Do not fidget. Look them in the eye when they speak or respond, though do not stare a few seconds at a time.
7. Remember this: small talk does not have to end at the topic it started at. Pick up clues from questions and answers and spin off of them. E.g.: "That is some good popcorn, are you watching the game tomorrow?" [Answer] "Yes they are a good team; do you know where I can buy some team memorabilia?" "Did you see that guy on TV during the game?"
8. Laugh at yourself, but do not be the clown.
9. End the conversation with something nice. For example, 'it was nice speaking to you' or 'have a great day'.
Tips
· Relax, the whole world is not watching you
· Watch your breathing; make sure you are not breathing too rapidly or holding your breath
· Always know three clean jokes that can be told to ANY audience
· Always be respectful
· Know the game of the season
· If you don't read/watch the news, at least scan the headlines each day
· Practice by talking to your milkperson, post person, etc. You can just say 'hello' if you are too nervous
Steps
1. Assess your atmosphere: Pay attention to your atmosphere (e.g. supermarket, grocery isle, drivers license office) and begin a conversation around it. However, be careful about making very personal remarks
2. Remind yourself that if you start off by praising somebody, always be honest. People can tell the difference, and dishonesty will kill the conversation.
3. Be generic: E.g.: "That is a great tie", "can you help me choose fresh parsley?" "Sorry, I could not help noticing your nice shoes", "Why don't you go ahead of me, I have more items than you."
4. Ask open ended questions. E.g.: "why did you prefer this brand over that?", "Is there another way to...?"
5. Respect the other person's space. Do not stand too close or else they will retreat into their shell. Do not stand too far, otherwise they will think you are scared of them.
6. Stand comfortably on both feet. Do not fidget. Look them in the eye when they speak or respond, though do not stare a few seconds at a time.
7. Remember this: small talk does not have to end at the topic it started at. Pick up clues from questions and answers and spin off of them. E.g.: "That is some good popcorn, are you watching the game tomorrow?" [Answer] "Yes they are a good team; do you know where I can buy some team memorabilia?" "Did you see that guy on TV during the game?"
8. Laugh at yourself, but do not be the clown.
9. End the conversation with something nice. For example, 'it was nice speaking to you' or 'have a great day'.
Tips
· Relax, the whole world is not watching you
· Watch your breathing; make sure you are not breathing too rapidly or holding your breath
· Always know three clean jokes that can be told to ANY audience
· Always be respectful
· Know the game of the season
· If you don't read/watch the news, at least scan the headlines each day
· Practice by talking to your milkperson, post person, etc. You can just say 'hello' if you are too nervous
How to Have a Great Conversation
The art of conversation takes practice, and is not as hard as you might think. It will take some knowledge, practice, and patience, and you can learn to relax and enjoy a great conversation.
Steps
1. Listen. This is the most important part of any conversation. You might think a conversation is all about talking, but it will not go anywhere if the listener is too busy thinking of something to say next. Pay attention to what is being said. When you talk to the other person, injecting a thought or two, they will often not realize that it was they who did most of the talking, and you get the credit for being a good conversationalist - which of course, you are!
2. Find out what the other person is interested in. You can even do some research in advance when you know you will have an opportunity to talk with a specific person. Complimenting them is a great place to start. Everyone likes sincere compliments, and that can be a great ice-breaker.
3. Ask questions. What do they like to do? What sort of things have they done in their life? What is happening to them now? What did they do today or last weekend? Identify things about them that you might be interested in hearing about, and politely ask questions. Remember, there was a reason that you wanted to talk to them, so obviously there was something about them that you found interesting.
4. Forget yourself. Dale Carnegie once said, "It's much easier to become interested in others than it is to convince them to be interested in you." If you are too busy thinking about yourself, what you look like, or what the other person might be thinking, you will never be able to relax. Introduce yourself, shake hands, then forget yourself and focus on them instead.
5. Practice active listening skills. Part of listening is letting the other person know that you are listening. Make eye contact. Nod. Say "Yes," "I see," "That's interesting," or something similar to give them clues that you are paying attention and not thinking about something else - such as what you are going to say next.
6. Ask clarifying questions. If the topic seems to be one they are interested in, ask them to clarify what they think or feel about it. If they are talking about an occupation or activity you do not understand, take the opportunity to learn from them. Everyone loves having a chance to teach another willing and interested person about their hobby or subject of expertise.
7. Paraphrase back what you have heard, using your own words. This seems like an easy skill to learn, but takes some practice to master. Conversation happens in turns, each person taking a turn to listen and a turn to speak or to respond. It shows respect for the other person when you use your "speaking turn" to show you have been listening and not just to say something new. They then have a chance to correct your understanding, affirm it, or embellish on it.
8. Consider your response before disagreeing. If the point was not important, ignore it rather than risk appearing argumentative. If you consider it important then politely point out your difference of opinion. Do not disagree merely to set yourself apart, but remember these points:
o It is the differences in people--and their conversation--that make them interesting.
o Agreeing with everything can kill a conversation just as easily as disagreeing with everything.
o A person is interesting when they are different from you; a person is obnoxious when they can not agree with anything you say, or if they use the point to make themselves appear superior.
o Try to omit the word "but" from your conversation when disagreeing as this word often puts people on the defensive. Instead, try substituting the word "and", it has less of an antagonistic effect.
9. Consider playing devil's advocate - which requires care. If your conversation partner makes a point, you can keep the conversation going by bringing up the opposite point of view (introduce it with something like "I agree, and..."). If you overuse this technique, however, you could end up appearing disagreeable or even hostile.
10. Do not panic over lulls. This is a point where you could easily inject your thoughts into the discussion. If the topic seems to have run out, use the pause to think for a moment and identify another conversation topic or question to ask them. Did something they said remind you of something else you have heard, something that happened to you, or bring up a question or topic in your mind? Mention it and you'll transition smoothly into further conversation!
11. Know when the conversation is over. Even the best conversations will eventually run out of steam or be ended by an interruption. Shake hands with the other person and be sure to tell them you enjoyed talking with them. Ending on a positive note will leave a good impression and likely bring them back later for more!
12. Make a good first impression. Smile, ask questions that require more than a yes/no answer, and really listen. Maintain eye contact and keep as friendly and polite as possible.
Tips
· If, after the conversation concludes, you come away feeling full of yourself there is a chance you maneuvered the talk to serve your own agenda and steam-rolled your counterpart. You used the occasion to show off your wit and knowledge. Try to keep from using a conversation to boost your ego.
· Always think before you speak. Do not take a long time to answer but listen well to keep on the right track with the conversation. Try not to make an embarrassing mistake, such as giving an opinion which may disrespect someone else. Choose your words carefully, but do not create pointless silences by keeping your conversation partner waiting for 5 minutes before you answer a simple question.
· Remember that sometimes if a conversation isn't going well, it might not be your fault! Sometimes the other person isn't interested in listening, or isn't willing to contribute. If they don't speak or listen, then it's their fault for having poor conversation skills, not yours.
Warnings
· Choose carefully when asking personal questions. You do not want to venture into overly personal issues. Even if the other person might be willing to talk about it, you may end up learning things that you really do not want to know. You certainly do not want the other person to think afterward that you coerced them into revealing personal information.
· Be sincere! Compliments are great, but too much flattery is obvious and will reveal you as being insincere.
· Beware of topics that can be inflammatory - such as religion and politics - and don't venture into them unless you know the person has roughly the same convictions as you, or the circumstances otherwise allow for pleasant discussion. Again, it's fine to disagree and can be nice to talk about differences, but it can also be a quick step toward an argument.
· Try not to argue! You do not have to agree with everything someone says, but you do not have to tell them all about how you disagree. If you feel the need to explain an opposing viewpoint, express it simply and without putting the other person on the defensive. It is better to simply change the subject in a casual conversation than to get involved in an argument.
· Try not to nod or respond with "Yes" and "I see" so much. It might make the person feel that you are bored and may sometimes seem like you are rushing them along. Never say anything hurtful or offensive to the other person, this may project a bad feeling between you.
· If it is a planned conversation, try listening to the news in case you run out of thing to say; it is always a good solution.
· Also try not to cut the person off mid-sentence. It seems disrespectful and it makes it seem like you think that what you have to say is more important than what others have to say. Let the person finish their thoughts and then continue on with thoughts of your own.
Steps
1. Listen. This is the most important part of any conversation. You might think a conversation is all about talking, but it will not go anywhere if the listener is too busy thinking of something to say next. Pay attention to what is being said. When you talk to the other person, injecting a thought or two, they will often not realize that it was they who did most of the talking, and you get the credit for being a good conversationalist - which of course, you are!
2. Find out what the other person is interested in. You can even do some research in advance when you know you will have an opportunity to talk with a specific person. Complimenting them is a great place to start. Everyone likes sincere compliments, and that can be a great ice-breaker.
3. Ask questions. What do they like to do? What sort of things have they done in their life? What is happening to them now? What did they do today or last weekend? Identify things about them that you might be interested in hearing about, and politely ask questions. Remember, there was a reason that you wanted to talk to them, so obviously there was something about them that you found interesting.
4. Forget yourself. Dale Carnegie once said, "It's much easier to become interested in others than it is to convince them to be interested in you." If you are too busy thinking about yourself, what you look like, or what the other person might be thinking, you will never be able to relax. Introduce yourself, shake hands, then forget yourself and focus on them instead.
5. Practice active listening skills. Part of listening is letting the other person know that you are listening. Make eye contact. Nod. Say "Yes," "I see," "That's interesting," or something similar to give them clues that you are paying attention and not thinking about something else - such as what you are going to say next.
6. Ask clarifying questions. If the topic seems to be one they are interested in, ask them to clarify what they think or feel about it. If they are talking about an occupation or activity you do not understand, take the opportunity to learn from them. Everyone loves having a chance to teach another willing and interested person about their hobby or subject of expertise.
7. Paraphrase back what you have heard, using your own words. This seems like an easy skill to learn, but takes some practice to master. Conversation happens in turns, each person taking a turn to listen and a turn to speak or to respond. It shows respect for the other person when you use your "speaking turn" to show you have been listening and not just to say something new. They then have a chance to correct your understanding, affirm it, or embellish on it.
8. Consider your response before disagreeing. If the point was not important, ignore it rather than risk appearing argumentative. If you consider it important then politely point out your difference of opinion. Do not disagree merely to set yourself apart, but remember these points:
o It is the differences in people--and their conversation--that make them interesting.
o Agreeing with everything can kill a conversation just as easily as disagreeing with everything.
o A person is interesting when they are different from you; a person is obnoxious when they can not agree with anything you say, or if they use the point to make themselves appear superior.
o Try to omit the word "but" from your conversation when disagreeing as this word often puts people on the defensive. Instead, try substituting the word "and", it has less of an antagonistic effect.
9. Consider playing devil's advocate - which requires care. If your conversation partner makes a point, you can keep the conversation going by bringing up the opposite point of view (introduce it with something like "I agree, and..."). If you overuse this technique, however, you could end up appearing disagreeable or even hostile.
10. Do not panic over lulls. This is a point where you could easily inject your thoughts into the discussion. If the topic seems to have run out, use the pause to think for a moment and identify another conversation topic or question to ask them. Did something they said remind you of something else you have heard, something that happened to you, or bring up a question or topic in your mind? Mention it and you'll transition smoothly into further conversation!
11. Know when the conversation is over. Even the best conversations will eventually run out of steam or be ended by an interruption. Shake hands with the other person and be sure to tell them you enjoyed talking with them. Ending on a positive note will leave a good impression and likely bring them back later for more!
12. Make a good first impression. Smile, ask questions that require more than a yes/no answer, and really listen. Maintain eye contact and keep as friendly and polite as possible.
Tips
· If, after the conversation concludes, you come away feeling full of yourself there is a chance you maneuvered the talk to serve your own agenda and steam-rolled your counterpart. You used the occasion to show off your wit and knowledge. Try to keep from using a conversation to boost your ego.
· Always think before you speak. Do not take a long time to answer but listen well to keep on the right track with the conversation. Try not to make an embarrassing mistake, such as giving an opinion which may disrespect someone else. Choose your words carefully, but do not create pointless silences by keeping your conversation partner waiting for 5 minutes before you answer a simple question.
· Remember that sometimes if a conversation isn't going well, it might not be your fault! Sometimes the other person isn't interested in listening, or isn't willing to contribute. If they don't speak or listen, then it's their fault for having poor conversation skills, not yours.
Warnings
· Choose carefully when asking personal questions. You do not want to venture into overly personal issues. Even if the other person might be willing to talk about it, you may end up learning things that you really do not want to know. You certainly do not want the other person to think afterward that you coerced them into revealing personal information.
· Be sincere! Compliments are great, but too much flattery is obvious and will reveal you as being insincere.
· Beware of topics that can be inflammatory - such as religion and politics - and don't venture into them unless you know the person has roughly the same convictions as you, or the circumstances otherwise allow for pleasant discussion. Again, it's fine to disagree and can be nice to talk about differences, but it can also be a quick step toward an argument.
· Try not to argue! You do not have to agree with everything someone says, but you do not have to tell them all about how you disagree. If you feel the need to explain an opposing viewpoint, express it simply and without putting the other person on the defensive. It is better to simply change the subject in a casual conversation than to get involved in an argument.
· Try not to nod or respond with "Yes" and "I see" so much. It might make the person feel that you are bored and may sometimes seem like you are rushing them along. Never say anything hurtful or offensive to the other person, this may project a bad feeling between you.
· If it is a planned conversation, try listening to the news in case you run out of thing to say; it is always a good solution.
· Also try not to cut the person off mid-sentence. It seems disrespectful and it makes it seem like you think that what you have to say is more important than what others have to say. Let the person finish their thoughts and then continue on with thoughts of your own.
How to Start a Conversation When You Have Nothing to Talk About
Whether you are a host or a guest, there are many social situations that will call for interaction, even when you are stumped for some way to get it going. For example, you might want to help a friend's new "significant other" feel comfortable. Or, you might see a stranger across a crowded room, and realize that this is your only chance to impress Mr. or Ms. Wonderful. Then, you realize that you're not sure what to say.
Steps
1. Start with a "hello," and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. (If you go to other countries, greet the person in tune with the particular culture, e.g. in India greet by saying 'namaste' with folded hands). If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step 3.
2. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it--bam!--you've got a great topic of conversation.
3. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.
4. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves --- get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" "Have you seen (Insert-Something-Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.
5. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.
6. Look your newfound friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.
7. Don't forget to have fun with your conversation!
Tips
· Just relax. Chances are that whatever small-talk you're making isn't going to stick out in anyone's mind a few months from now. Just say whatever comes into your head, so long as it's not offensive or really weird. (Unless, of course, the person you're attempting to converse with is into weird stuff.)
· Remember, if you think of something in your head while you're talking, it's probably related.
· It will help if you watch some TV, listen to radio shows, and/or read a lot -- newspapers, magazines, and/or books. You need to have some idea of what is going on in the world.
· If you are shy, it will be helpful to have thought about a topic or two that you could talk about.
· Follow the lead that your listener is expressing. If he or she appears interested, then continue. If he or she is looking at a clock or watch, or worse, looking for an escape strategy, then you have been going on for too long.
· Interesting and funny quotes or facts can lighten things up, and make way for things to talk about. You could also use a set of conversation starter question cards for inspiration.
· If talking over the phone, keep the person involved in the conversation at all costs. If you can't come up with a good topic, try the "questions" game. Just keep asking them questions; random questions work just fine as long as they are appropriate. This technique can save a phone conversation. The questions should be open ended questions that do not require a yes or no answer. For example "How do you know the hosts?" This way you can ask questions about what they just said or follow up with how you know the hosts (for example) instead of acting as if the conversation is an interrogation.
· Half of an effective conversation is the way you non-verbally communicate, and not necessarily what you say. Practice better non-verbal skills that are friendly and confident.
· Read newspapers and magazines to increase your knowledge so you can have more interesting things to talk about
Warnings
· Don't be overly invasive with questions.
· Don't use tons of fillers like "umm" or "soo". It might make the person you're talking to feel awkward or obligated to say something. Instead talk slowly and pause. This will create a little tension and make your newly found friend more invested in your conversation.
· Don't desperately ask personal questions.
· Keep eye-contact
· Don't ever comment negatively on the person or someone's looks... you never know if they have a personal attachment to it or if they are friends with the person you are criticizing
Steps
1. Start with a "hello," and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. (If you go to other countries, greet the person in tune with the particular culture, e.g. in India greet by saying 'namaste' with folded hands). If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step 3.
2. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it--bam!--you've got a great topic of conversation.
3. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.
4. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves --- get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" "Have you seen (Insert-Something-Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.
5. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.
6. Look your newfound friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.
7. Don't forget to have fun with your conversation!
Tips
· Just relax. Chances are that whatever small-talk you're making isn't going to stick out in anyone's mind a few months from now. Just say whatever comes into your head, so long as it's not offensive or really weird. (Unless, of course, the person you're attempting to converse with is into weird stuff.)
· Remember, if you think of something in your head while you're talking, it's probably related.
· It will help if you watch some TV, listen to radio shows, and/or read a lot -- newspapers, magazines, and/or books. You need to have some idea of what is going on in the world.
· If you are shy, it will be helpful to have thought about a topic or two that you could talk about.
· Follow the lead that your listener is expressing. If he or she appears interested, then continue. If he or she is looking at a clock or watch, or worse, looking for an escape strategy, then you have been going on for too long.
· Interesting and funny quotes or facts can lighten things up, and make way for things to talk about. You could also use a set of conversation starter question cards for inspiration.
· If talking over the phone, keep the person involved in the conversation at all costs. If you can't come up with a good topic, try the "questions" game. Just keep asking them questions; random questions work just fine as long as they are appropriate. This technique can save a phone conversation. The questions should be open ended questions that do not require a yes or no answer. For example "How do you know the hosts?" This way you can ask questions about what they just said or follow up with how you know the hosts (for example) instead of acting as if the conversation is an interrogation.
· Half of an effective conversation is the way you non-verbally communicate, and not necessarily what you say. Practice better non-verbal skills that are friendly and confident.
· Read newspapers and magazines to increase your knowledge so you can have more interesting things to talk about
Warnings
· Don't be overly invasive with questions.
· Don't use tons of fillers like "umm" or "soo". It might make the person you're talking to feel awkward or obligated to say something. Instead talk slowly and pause. This will create a little tension and make your newly found friend more invested in your conversation.
· Don't desperately ask personal questions.
· Keep eye-contact
· Don't ever comment negatively on the person or someone's looks... you never know if they have a personal attachment to it or if they are friends with the person you are criticizing
How to Come up With Good Conversation Topics
Many people find it hard to come up with good conversation topics. In this article we will discuss some ways that may help you get over the hump.
Steps
1. Find out what your conversation partner is interested in. Sometimes this is hard to do, but is not impossible. The best way to do this is by looking at their clothing and their eyes. By doing this, you may be able to tell what type of person they are, and if they are shy or not.
2. Choose a topic that holds your interest, and that you know a lot about. You want to be secure in what you are saying to the other person. You want them to see that confidence, and to feel at ease with you rather than you passing your nervousness onto them. Not to mention, picking a topic that you know a lot about will make them perceive you to be more intelligent, and more of a leader.
3. Come up with something that you and the people surrounding you might have in common. A lot of good conversations start on so-called “common ground”. Sometimes even the smallest things like you both liking the same food, the same music, and etc, can help you to be able to start a conversation that lasts for hours on end. It helps you to come up with lots of good conversation topics. Another good thing is sometimes you can learn from each other when one might have strong points, where the other one does not.
4. A good way of starting the conversation is by complimenting them; for example, "Ooh I love your dress! Where did you get it from?" This gets the conversation going and the person can't just say "yes" or "no".
5. Remember you'll never run out of things to say, as long as you're curious about something.
Steps
1. Find out what your conversation partner is interested in. Sometimes this is hard to do, but is not impossible. The best way to do this is by looking at their clothing and their eyes. By doing this, you may be able to tell what type of person they are, and if they are shy or not.
2. Choose a topic that holds your interest, and that you know a lot about. You want to be secure in what you are saying to the other person. You want them to see that confidence, and to feel at ease with you rather than you passing your nervousness onto them. Not to mention, picking a topic that you know a lot about will make them perceive you to be more intelligent, and more of a leader.
3. Come up with something that you and the people surrounding you might have in common. A lot of good conversations start on so-called “common ground”. Sometimes even the smallest things like you both liking the same food, the same music, and etc, can help you to be able to start a conversation that lasts for hours on end. It helps you to come up with lots of good conversation topics. Another good thing is sometimes you can learn from each other when one might have strong points, where the other one does not.
4. A good way of starting the conversation is by complimenting them; for example, "Ooh I love your dress! Where did you get it from?" This gets the conversation going and the person can't just say "yes" or "no".
5. Remember you'll never run out of things to say, as long as you're curious about something.
How to Start a Conversation with your Crush Without It Being Awkward
Having a crush on someone can make you very shy around that person and many times you aren't acquainted with your crush. The only way to do that is to communicate, and if you don't know them yet, the only way to do that is to get to know them. The first step you must take before you ask them out is by starting up a conversation. But, unfortunately, that's easier said than done for most people. If you are one of those people, this guide is for you.
Steps
1. Start a simple conversation with them. Your crush is probably in at least one of your classes at school, otherwise how would you ever see them besides maybe in the hallways? Well, if you're near them as the two of you are walking to class, ask if any homework was assigned the previous night. They will almost definitely answer you, since you asked a pretty casual question. If they say yes, say you forgot to do it and were up late watching movies (list real movies that you've actually seen of the top of your head). Then ask your crush if they have seen any of them, or maybe they'll say they saw one of them before you ask them. If your crush hasn't seen any of them, recommend one of them and say why. If your crush has already seen the movie, start talking about your favorite parts, lines, etc.
2. Now that you know you can have conversation with your crush, sit near them if possible so you can take part in the conversations they have with the people around them. Don't let the people around you exclude you from the conversations. Make comments. Ask questions. Crack jokes.
3. At any time, ask everybody who's in the conversation what school clubs they do, and you'll be able to find out which ones, if any, that your crush does. They may interest you and you could join them and you would be around your crush more and be able to get to know them better.
4. Tell people in the conversation about something exciting you're doing after school one day in class. Then people will share what they're doing after school as well (unless they are completely ignoring you, which shouldn't be happening at this point), or maybe what they always do after school. This may give you an idea of where your crush hangs out. You could go there after school and meet your crush there, and talk to them.
Tips
· Look for hints of your crush liking you back. If you can see them, ask them out. You'll probably know each other well enough by that time.
· During the first step, act casual as you are asking the question about homework, as if you would ask it to anybody from your class that passed by. That reduces awkwardness.
· Once you get to know your crush and their friends well from the conversations, talk to them at recess.
· If you are too chicken to do any of this or are just not motivated enough, bear in mind that usually the more you are around your crush in a friendly manner, the more they'll like you back.
Warnings
· Don't stay friends for too long. If you do, you'll be pressured not to ask your crush out because after you break up from each other, it'll be too awkward to be friends again.
Steps
1. Start a simple conversation with them. Your crush is probably in at least one of your classes at school, otherwise how would you ever see them besides maybe in the hallways? Well, if you're near them as the two of you are walking to class, ask if any homework was assigned the previous night. They will almost definitely answer you, since you asked a pretty casual question. If they say yes, say you forgot to do it and were up late watching movies (list real movies that you've actually seen of the top of your head). Then ask your crush if they have seen any of them, or maybe they'll say they saw one of them before you ask them. If your crush hasn't seen any of them, recommend one of them and say why. If your crush has already seen the movie, start talking about your favorite parts, lines, etc.
2. Now that you know you can have conversation with your crush, sit near them if possible so you can take part in the conversations they have with the people around them. Don't let the people around you exclude you from the conversations. Make comments. Ask questions. Crack jokes.
3. At any time, ask everybody who's in the conversation what school clubs they do, and you'll be able to find out which ones, if any, that your crush does. They may interest you and you could join them and you would be around your crush more and be able to get to know them better.
4. Tell people in the conversation about something exciting you're doing after school one day in class. Then people will share what they're doing after school as well (unless they are completely ignoring you, which shouldn't be happening at this point), or maybe what they always do after school. This may give you an idea of where your crush hangs out. You could go there after school and meet your crush there, and talk to them.
Tips
· Look for hints of your crush liking you back. If you can see them, ask them out. You'll probably know each other well enough by that time.
· During the first step, act casual as you are asking the question about homework, as if you would ask it to anybody from your class that passed by. That reduces awkwardness.
· Once you get to know your crush and their friends well from the conversations, talk to them at recess.
· If you are too chicken to do any of this or are just not motivated enough, bear in mind that usually the more you are around your crush in a friendly manner, the more they'll like you back.
Warnings
· Don't stay friends for too long. If you do, you'll be pressured not to ask your crush out because after you break up from each other, it'll be too awkward to be friends again.
How to Find out if a Girl Likes You
You really like this girl and yes, her body language hints it, but you're still not sure if she likes you. Here are some ways/tests to find out if that girl is crushing on you.
Steps
1. If she sits next to you, move a little closer, into her personal space, but not too much. If she doesn't scoot away, she probably likes you.
2. When she is talking to you, have a friend of yours say hi to her. If she briefly says hi back to him/her then starts talking with you again like she wasn't even interrupted, there's a good chance she likes you.
3. Get a group of people (including her, of course) around you and ask them who they like. When you come to her, it'll seem natural that you're asking her. If she says "Nobody!" and giggles, she probably likes you.
4. If when you ask her simple questions, she not only answers them, but follows up her answer with a comment to keep the conversation going, she probably likes you.
5. Ask the guy that sits next to you to watch her as you walk up to the front of the classroom. Make sure she notices you. When you sit back down, ask the guy if she did anything such as stare at you or giggle to one of her friends while looking/pointing at you. If any of this happened, she may like you.
6. Ask her where she likes to hang out, as if you eventually wanted to ask her out, and if she gets real excited, she probably likes you.
7. Drop something like your pencil case or binder. If she takes the initiative to help you or doesn't laugh at it when everyone else is laughing and stands up for you, she probably likes you.
8. If she looks in your eyes for a second but then quickly turns away
9. if she smiles at everything you say or laughs at things that arent even really funny she probably likes you
Tips
· A lot of times if you catch her looking at you, she may look away, but it's not because she likes you. See if she continues to look back at you.
· Body language you should look out for is if she is doing the hair toss, mirroring you, and acting differently than she does around her friends.
· Try these tests repeatedly, maybe once a week.
· Get to know her friends and ask them who she likes. Also, tell them that you like her and they will probably tell her. Then she should ask you out.
Warnings
· Don't do gross stuff like burping or farting around her. That's a huge turn -off.
· If these tests don't work, it doesn't mean she doesn't like you.
· If she is way too mean to you, don't think she doesn't like you because she actually probably does.
Things You'll Need
· A girl
· Confidence
· The ability to read this article
Steps
1. If she sits next to you, move a little closer, into her personal space, but not too much. If she doesn't scoot away, she probably likes you.
2. When she is talking to you, have a friend of yours say hi to her. If she briefly says hi back to him/her then starts talking with you again like she wasn't even interrupted, there's a good chance she likes you.
3. Get a group of people (including her, of course) around you and ask them who they like. When you come to her, it'll seem natural that you're asking her. If she says "Nobody!" and giggles, she probably likes you.
4. If when you ask her simple questions, she not only answers them, but follows up her answer with a comment to keep the conversation going, she probably likes you.
5. Ask the guy that sits next to you to watch her as you walk up to the front of the classroom. Make sure she notices you. When you sit back down, ask the guy if she did anything such as stare at you or giggle to one of her friends while looking/pointing at you. If any of this happened, she may like you.
6. Ask her where she likes to hang out, as if you eventually wanted to ask her out, and if she gets real excited, she probably likes you.
7. Drop something like your pencil case or binder. If she takes the initiative to help you or doesn't laugh at it when everyone else is laughing and stands up for you, she probably likes you.
8. If she looks in your eyes for a second but then quickly turns away
9. if she smiles at everything you say or laughs at things that arent even really funny she probably likes you
Tips
· A lot of times if you catch her looking at you, she may look away, but it's not because she likes you. See if she continues to look back at you.
· Body language you should look out for is if she is doing the hair toss, mirroring you, and acting differently than she does around her friends.
· Try these tests repeatedly, maybe once a week.
· Get to know her friends and ask them who she likes. Also, tell them that you like her and they will probably tell her. Then she should ask you out.
Warnings
· Don't do gross stuff like burping or farting around her. That's a huge turn -off.
· If these tests don't work, it doesn't mean she doesn't like you.
· If she is way too mean to you, don't think she doesn't like you because she actually probably does.
Things You'll Need
· A girl
· Confidence
· The ability to read this article
How to Ask a Girl Out
When you would like to ask a girl out, just find the right time and place to ask. Sometimes you will just be hanging out, talking, when you feel you would like to make a date with her. If you do not really know her, but have seen her in school, or with other friends you know, then it might take a little more effort, but it certainly can be done. Give her a compliment. Talk with her about your similarities and differences. Once you feel comfortable about it, do it. Or go up to her and say "You know... I really, really like you and I was wondering if you would maybe go out with me?" It will probably work.
Steps
1. Make sure that the girl is someone you honestly feel you could do things with. Tell her she looks AWESOME, not just a crush, and make sure she's SINGLE. Breaking a girl's heart means that they might encourage other girls not to go out with you.
2. Find out about the activities and hobbies she likes, but always be mindful. The more you know about her interests, the more things you will have to talk about. Try and talk as much as you can about interesting things, but don't over talk at first. Try to find things in common with one other.
3. Approach the girl you like. Try to dress fairly decently, but don't overdo it. For example, if you're a T-shirt and jeans person, wear that. Do not show up wearing a suit and tie, because you want her to like you for you, and you don't want to give her any false ideas. Look somewhat decent, showing that you are trying. Don't show up wearing over-powering cologne; two squirts is enough. Just enough for her to notice you when talking to you but not for somebody across the room to notice.
4. Greet her in whatever fashion you normally would, but remember, being overly cordial or more relaxed than she knows you to be, can reveal to her that you are trying too hard and therefore are not confident with being yourself, which will mirror that same anxiety within her, ruining your chances. In other words, be yourself. The greeting is what sets the precedent for who you are. If the greeting creates an odd situation where there is a bit of personality clash, it can ruin your entire chance. Traditionally, following the greeting is the conversation. Reiterating from before, it's important to be yourself, so talk about subjects that you are interested in, and give responses to how you genuinely feel. Honesty is much, much more than just telling the truth, it's about showing people you live a life other than theirs and have sovereign ideas, thoughts and feelings.
5. Ease into your invitation. After you have been talking for awhile, and it is obvious that both of you "click", invite her to be involved with you in an activity. Almost any activity is perfectly suitable. Mundane activities like grocery shopping or more exhilarating ones like snowboarding are great ways for her to get to know you, although inviting her for having coffee at a Cafe, or even a drink at a bar are not only great ideas, but traditional as well. After you and she have had the opportunity to "feel" each other out, find a time in the conversation where it would be appropriate to ask her out. The way you would ask her is quite simple in fact. An example would be: "Hey I'm going/doing ACTIVITY this weekend. How would you like to tag along? I promise it'll be more interesting than whatever you had planned." Say this with a small smile, teasingly. Do NOT use cheesy pickup lines, as they are not you. The example doesn't have to be followed verbatim, you can ask it in whatever way you feel is comfortable, but the important part is that you make a time to see her, and ask if she wants to come with you.
6. Spend time with her and a group of other people (not a one-on-one date). This will make her feel more comfortable as it's not as intense as being out as a couple.
7. Make sure that you're asking out this girl not just for her looks, but for her personality. If you just ask her out because she is "hot" , then things won't work out for a long period of time. If she is a good friend of yours, don't make her feel uncomfortable, but ask her out & tell her that you really like her.
8. Ask her when you two are ALONE. Having others around you will stir pressure on her to say yes or no. Also, make sure the girl you are asking out is genuine and will really like you - not just because she has a good figure or is popular.
Tips
· Here's how to stand: "Head down, eyes looking up, hands in pockets, eyes looking up, head slightly tilted conveying shy vulnerability."
· Have fun - don't try to be serious all the time! Most of them like to have some fun every now and then.
· Before you meet her, make a list of creative ways to ask the girl out. Then pick the best one. One way you could do this without it being awkward is when the two of you are hanging out, you just say, "Hey, (insert girl), I'm hungry. Do you want to go to (insert restaraunt)?" and maybe wink right after to hint that it's actually a date.
· Make eye contact.
· Be extremely nice and treat her with respect. This is a must. If you can't treat a girl right, don't even bother trying.
· Become her friend. This is half the battle, and at the very worst at least you have one more friend than you had before.
· Make sure her past relationship is completely over and done with.
· Be calm and confident. If you're sweating and stuttering, that girl will feel nervous about going out with you. Girls want guys that are confident, but not cocky.
· Some girls prefer to be called "sexy" or "hot." Others prefer to be called "lovely" or "beautiful." Make sure you don't use the wrong word. There are other good ones too like "stunning," "irresistible," "really something," "gorgeous," "a hottie," "radiant", etc. Try not to get stuck on just one.
· Some girls don't care what a guy who she doesn't know thinks of her looks.
· Practice talking to her. If you feel uncomfortable talking to her, you probably aren't ready to ask her out.
· Think of subjects to discuss on the date; stories about yourself (not gross ones and not ones that are too elaborate and can't understood right off the bat!), things you want to know about her, etc. in advance
· Being relaxed and confident is the difference between a comfortable silence and an unbearable silence. It's natural to have breaks in the conversation. Don't sweat it.
· Don't ask your friends to do it. You will have a better chance coming from you.
· If you get nervous when you go to ask her out, don't worry about it. Some girls actually think this is cute.
· Smell nice when you go to ask her out! Smell is a big turn off! At least put on some deodorant, and don't overdo the cologne (some find it offending). Also, be careful about wearing strong aftershave. Some girls like the smell, while others don't. Just make sure you know if she likes/dislikes it.
· Girls hate it when you have a friend ask them out. Otherwise, they get all confused and will not talk to you if she doesn't know the real deal.
· If you are not sure if it's the right thing to do don't do it. You want a girl you know is interested in you so don't rush.
· Joking around with her, even if it's in your nature, isn't always the best thing to do when asking her out. Show her that you can go outside of your element for her. Besides, if you're already laughing and you bring it up stupidly (ex. saying "Oh yeah, we should go out.") then she may not take it seriously.
· Don't be afraid of rejection! Most girls have big hearts and will let you down very easily, if at all. Some girls agree to one date just because you asked and they're being nice. Don't take it the wrong way, it simply means she likes you enough to not hurt your feelings but not enough that she's ready for a relationship.
· Try Double Dating when you first go out. If you can't drive it's a great idea, because would you rather your mom take you? I didn't think so. It also relieves pressure for the girl and can keep you out of sticky situations. If you're nervous, having a cool older friend that you're comfortable with and their date can help you feel relax and have a better time.
· Remember the three P's of dating. For it to be a date it has to be Planned Ahead, Paid for, and Paired Off. Have a plan, don't go out there winging it because you'll do something stupid. If you're a guy, be a man and respect the girl enough to pay for her. Paired off, you don't have to be completely exclusive but it allows the date to be loyal to you in all the activities which leads to deeper bonds and deeper trust.
· If the girl says "No," don't get really annoyed and show it. If you don't get annoyed and still get to know her better and then you ask again in about a couple of weeks she might say yes (if this doesn't work just give up)
· Let her know that you really like her or else she might think you just want to have a short relationship.
· Have fun. No girl wants to be with a guy who is boring.
· be confident.it's a little weird when someone starts to stutter and say um a lot.
· When you do approach the girl, try not to start the conversation by a "Hey, can I talk to you?" or a "Can I ask you something?". Don't ask her out randomly, but these lines are giant hints that you are about to ask her out. Can be awkward.
· Another thing by the same guy who said not to e-mail ask, ask her out, most people are scared, do you know why, because of the big NO, don't worry, if you really really love her it should work for you.
· Don't wait! There is never a perfect time.
· If you went out with a girl and she broke up with you then DO NOT ask one of her close friends to go out with you less than a month later. She will say no because she's not sure if her friend will be cool with you two going out.
· Ask her out a few months later (e.g. If you asked a girl out in November, then you should probably ask her out in late January)
· If you are looking at her and she starts to turn towards you don't turn and look in the opposite direction. It can make her think you are not confident and you will never get her.
· DO NOT let her know you read this. It will almost definitely make you seem like you aren't confident enough to try it yourself.
· And if you want to read her body language but don't want her to notice if she sits in front of you in a class you could look at her but you have to make sure you pay attention so you don't get in trouble.
· And if you break up with her but she really likes you, you could say "I really hope we can still be friends." Because if you don't she would get very upset and think you might never want to talk to her again.
· Smile most of the time when you want to ask her out, girls love guys who smile.
· Remember that the boy pays! Girls sit there and say, "Oh, I can pay," but YOU have to pay! Remember this!!!!!!!!!
· When you get ready to ask the big question, glace at the floor whilst you ask half the question and then pause, and then look deep into her eyes ask half the rest softly.
· Stare into her eyes she will most likley think u have the most gorgeous eyes i the whole world then shell start liking u!!!!
Warnings
· If you give her a note, leave it in her locker, because it gives her time to think about it before she gets around to answering it. Remember, dates are about seeing if you think you would have a chance with someone!
· Try to be mature around her! No girl likes a guy who tells cheesy jokes or plays with food!
· Absolutely don't ask in front of anyone else, because it might embarrass her.
· Keep your hands to yourself! Trying to get physical with a girl right away just tells her that you consider her to be an object and not an actual person.
· Be persistent, but not too persistent. If she turns you down gently, then she's politely telling you she's not interested. If she flat out refuses, back away. You don't want any girl to think you're a stalker.
· If you have to ask her out through a friend, you will get a "no" by default. Girls do not enjoy hearing, "Hey! I'm asking you out for (Name of guy). He doesn't like you enough to overcome his lack of confidence." They will hear this regardless of how tactful your friend is, unless her friend is a very close friend to both you and herself.
· Do not ask right away; you will always get a "no" just because she can always say she doesn't know you well enough. This one is big, get to know them well, then when you're both ready, ask her out cool and calm, and never try to kiss her on a first date unless you're positive that you both want to.
· Do not try to buy her the world on the first date (e.g. teddies, etc.) because she might not want to develop the relationship.
· Don't keep prying at a rejection. It's okay to ask how come if she says no, but don't be invasive.
· Make sure you don't have bad breath! If you do they will assume that you do most of the time! Be careful, be clean!
· It wouldn't be the best choice to ask a girl out by e-mail because she might think you're to scared to ask her out in person. But it would be ok if you guys weren't going to see eachother for a while and you wanted to ask her out before somebody else scooped her up.
· Find out about the activities and hobbies she likes but try not to get to know her to much because when the time comes she might think of you as just a friend.
· Don't talk about your class.
· Don't look anywhere else while you're talking to her, this is considered rude and she might brush you off for it.
Steps
1. Make sure that the girl is someone you honestly feel you could do things with. Tell her she looks AWESOME, not just a crush, and make sure she's SINGLE. Breaking a girl's heart means that they might encourage other girls not to go out with you.
2. Find out about the activities and hobbies she likes, but always be mindful. The more you know about her interests, the more things you will have to talk about. Try and talk as much as you can about interesting things, but don't over talk at first. Try to find things in common with one other.
3. Approach the girl you like. Try to dress fairly decently, but don't overdo it. For example, if you're a T-shirt and jeans person, wear that. Do not show up wearing a suit and tie, because you want her to like you for you, and you don't want to give her any false ideas. Look somewhat decent, showing that you are trying. Don't show up wearing over-powering cologne; two squirts is enough. Just enough for her to notice you when talking to you but not for somebody across the room to notice.
4. Greet her in whatever fashion you normally would, but remember, being overly cordial or more relaxed than she knows you to be, can reveal to her that you are trying too hard and therefore are not confident with being yourself, which will mirror that same anxiety within her, ruining your chances. In other words, be yourself. The greeting is what sets the precedent for who you are. If the greeting creates an odd situation where there is a bit of personality clash, it can ruin your entire chance. Traditionally, following the greeting is the conversation. Reiterating from before, it's important to be yourself, so talk about subjects that you are interested in, and give responses to how you genuinely feel. Honesty is much, much more than just telling the truth, it's about showing people you live a life other than theirs and have sovereign ideas, thoughts and feelings.
5. Ease into your invitation. After you have been talking for awhile, and it is obvious that both of you "click", invite her to be involved with you in an activity. Almost any activity is perfectly suitable. Mundane activities like grocery shopping or more exhilarating ones like snowboarding are great ways for her to get to know you, although inviting her for having coffee at a Cafe, or even a drink at a bar are not only great ideas, but traditional as well. After you and she have had the opportunity to "feel" each other out, find a time in the conversation where it would be appropriate to ask her out. The way you would ask her is quite simple in fact. An example would be: "Hey I'm going/doing ACTIVITY this weekend. How would you like to tag along? I promise it'll be more interesting than whatever you had planned." Say this with a small smile, teasingly. Do NOT use cheesy pickup lines, as they are not you. The example doesn't have to be followed verbatim, you can ask it in whatever way you feel is comfortable, but the important part is that you make a time to see her, and ask if she wants to come with you.
6. Spend time with her and a group of other people (not a one-on-one date). This will make her feel more comfortable as it's not as intense as being out as a couple.
7. Make sure that you're asking out this girl not just for her looks, but for her personality. If you just ask her out because she is "hot" , then things won't work out for a long period of time. If she is a good friend of yours, don't make her feel uncomfortable, but ask her out & tell her that you really like her.
8. Ask her when you two are ALONE. Having others around you will stir pressure on her to say yes or no. Also, make sure the girl you are asking out is genuine and will really like you - not just because she has a good figure or is popular.
Tips
· Here's how to stand: "Head down, eyes looking up, hands in pockets, eyes looking up, head slightly tilted conveying shy vulnerability."
· Have fun - don't try to be serious all the time! Most of them like to have some fun every now and then.
· Before you meet her, make a list of creative ways to ask the girl out. Then pick the best one. One way you could do this without it being awkward is when the two of you are hanging out, you just say, "Hey, (insert girl), I'm hungry. Do you want to go to (insert restaraunt)?" and maybe wink right after to hint that it's actually a date.
· Make eye contact.
· Be extremely nice and treat her with respect. This is a must. If you can't treat a girl right, don't even bother trying.
· Become her friend. This is half the battle, and at the very worst at least you have one more friend than you had before.
· Make sure her past relationship is completely over and done with.
· Be calm and confident. If you're sweating and stuttering, that girl will feel nervous about going out with you. Girls want guys that are confident, but not cocky.
· Some girls prefer to be called "sexy" or "hot." Others prefer to be called "lovely" or "beautiful." Make sure you don't use the wrong word. There are other good ones too like "stunning," "irresistible," "really something," "gorgeous," "a hottie," "radiant", etc. Try not to get stuck on just one.
· Some girls don't care what a guy who she doesn't know thinks of her looks.
· Practice talking to her. If you feel uncomfortable talking to her, you probably aren't ready to ask her out.
· Think of subjects to discuss on the date; stories about yourself (not gross ones and not ones that are too elaborate and can't understood right off the bat!), things you want to know about her, etc. in advance
· Being relaxed and confident is the difference between a comfortable silence and an unbearable silence. It's natural to have breaks in the conversation. Don't sweat it.
· Don't ask your friends to do it. You will have a better chance coming from you.
· If you get nervous when you go to ask her out, don't worry about it. Some girls actually think this is cute.
· Smell nice when you go to ask her out! Smell is a big turn off! At least put on some deodorant, and don't overdo the cologne (some find it offending). Also, be careful about wearing strong aftershave. Some girls like the smell, while others don't. Just make sure you know if she likes/dislikes it.
· Girls hate it when you have a friend ask them out. Otherwise, they get all confused and will not talk to you if she doesn't know the real deal.
· If you are not sure if it's the right thing to do don't do it. You want a girl you know is interested in you so don't rush.
· Joking around with her, even if it's in your nature, isn't always the best thing to do when asking her out. Show her that you can go outside of your element for her. Besides, if you're already laughing and you bring it up stupidly (ex. saying "Oh yeah, we should go out.") then she may not take it seriously.
· Don't be afraid of rejection! Most girls have big hearts and will let you down very easily, if at all. Some girls agree to one date just because you asked and they're being nice. Don't take it the wrong way, it simply means she likes you enough to not hurt your feelings but not enough that she's ready for a relationship.
· Try Double Dating when you first go out. If you can't drive it's a great idea, because would you rather your mom take you? I didn't think so. It also relieves pressure for the girl and can keep you out of sticky situations. If you're nervous, having a cool older friend that you're comfortable with and their date can help you feel relax and have a better time.
· Remember the three P's of dating. For it to be a date it has to be Planned Ahead, Paid for, and Paired Off. Have a plan, don't go out there winging it because you'll do something stupid. If you're a guy, be a man and respect the girl enough to pay for her. Paired off, you don't have to be completely exclusive but it allows the date to be loyal to you in all the activities which leads to deeper bonds and deeper trust.
· If the girl says "No," don't get really annoyed and show it. If you don't get annoyed and still get to know her better and then you ask again in about a couple of weeks she might say yes (if this doesn't work just give up)
· Let her know that you really like her or else she might think you just want to have a short relationship.
· Have fun. No girl wants to be with a guy who is boring.
· be confident.it's a little weird when someone starts to stutter and say um a lot.
· When you do approach the girl, try not to start the conversation by a "Hey, can I talk to you?" or a "Can I ask you something?". Don't ask her out randomly, but these lines are giant hints that you are about to ask her out. Can be awkward.
· Another thing by the same guy who said not to e-mail ask, ask her out, most people are scared, do you know why, because of the big NO, don't worry, if you really really love her it should work for you.
· Don't wait! There is never a perfect time.
· If you went out with a girl and she broke up with you then DO NOT ask one of her close friends to go out with you less than a month later. She will say no because she's not sure if her friend will be cool with you two going out.
· Ask her out a few months later (e.g. If you asked a girl out in November, then you should probably ask her out in late January)
· If you are looking at her and she starts to turn towards you don't turn and look in the opposite direction. It can make her think you are not confident and you will never get her.
· DO NOT let her know you read this. It will almost definitely make you seem like you aren't confident enough to try it yourself.
· And if you want to read her body language but don't want her to notice if she sits in front of you in a class you could look at her but you have to make sure you pay attention so you don't get in trouble.
· And if you break up with her but she really likes you, you could say "I really hope we can still be friends." Because if you don't she would get very upset and think you might never want to talk to her again.
· Smile most of the time when you want to ask her out, girls love guys who smile.
· Remember that the boy pays! Girls sit there and say, "Oh, I can pay," but YOU have to pay! Remember this!!!!!!!!!
· When you get ready to ask the big question, glace at the floor whilst you ask half the question and then pause, and then look deep into her eyes ask half the rest softly.
· Stare into her eyes she will most likley think u have the most gorgeous eyes i the whole world then shell start liking u!!!!
Warnings
· If you give her a note, leave it in her locker, because it gives her time to think about it before she gets around to answering it. Remember, dates are about seeing if you think you would have a chance with someone!
· Try to be mature around her! No girl likes a guy who tells cheesy jokes or plays with food!
· Absolutely don't ask in front of anyone else, because it might embarrass her.
· Keep your hands to yourself! Trying to get physical with a girl right away just tells her that you consider her to be an object and not an actual person.
· Be persistent, but not too persistent. If she turns you down gently, then she's politely telling you she's not interested. If she flat out refuses, back away. You don't want any girl to think you're a stalker.
· If you have to ask her out through a friend, you will get a "no" by default. Girls do not enjoy hearing, "Hey! I'm asking you out for (Name of guy). He doesn't like you enough to overcome his lack of confidence." They will hear this regardless of how tactful your friend is, unless her friend is a very close friend to both you and herself.
· Do not ask right away; you will always get a "no" just because she can always say she doesn't know you well enough. This one is big, get to know them well, then when you're both ready, ask her out cool and calm, and never try to kiss her on a first date unless you're positive that you both want to.
· Do not try to buy her the world on the first date (e.g. teddies, etc.) because she might not want to develop the relationship.
· Don't keep prying at a rejection. It's okay to ask how come if she says no, but don't be invasive.
· Make sure you don't have bad breath! If you do they will assume that you do most of the time! Be careful, be clean!
· It wouldn't be the best choice to ask a girl out by e-mail because she might think you're to scared to ask her out in person. But it would be ok if you guys weren't going to see eachother for a while and you wanted to ask her out before somebody else scooped her up.
· Find out about the activities and hobbies she likes but try not to get to know her to much because when the time comes she might think of you as just a friend.
· Don't talk about your class.
· Don't look anywhere else while you're talking to her, this is considered rude and she might brush you off for it.
How to Talk to a Girl You Like for the First Time
Here is a article on how to treat a girl right! You'll have her in your arms before you know it.
Steps
1. It's all about confidence! Maintain the attitude that she is lucky that you like her and if she doesn't see that, there are plenty of girls who will. If you are not that confident or too shy, you should work on this dilemma.
2. Compliment her:tell her she has a beautiful smile or beautiful eyes, but do not say something that is not true.
3. Girls like it when boys try to defend them when someone makes fun of them or threatens them.
4. In most cases, if you pick on her and pretend you hate her, then she will never like you. She'll think that you do not like her, so she won't like you.
5. Girls feel at home when you talk to them honestly and openly so try doing that.
6. NEVER say to a girl that she is hot, it might make her very uncomfortable; say she is pretty or beautiful instead.
7. Give her your phone number when you know each other well enough.
8. If she asks if she looks bad or stupid, say no, NO MATTER WHAT YOU THINK.
Tips
· A note about affection: it's good to start small, a touch on her lower spine will make her warm towards you, and quietly going up behind her to cuddle is less freaky than the full on front hug and she can easily walk away if shes uncomfortable:)
· Remember this: the best thing to do is tell her directly. She will think you are brave for admitting it.
· Give her a compliment - girls don't like too many compliments, it starts to freak them out. A guy will become the total opposite of a crush.
· Say "Hi" in the hallway if you happen to walk by her. This will tell you whether or not she wants to say hi by her facial expression.
· If she looks like she would say hi back, then go for it. But if she doesn't, try another time.
· Be friendly, but do not crowd her.
· When you smile at a girl it makes her feel great.
· After making friendly conversation with her, try holding her hand or maybe hugging her. You don't want to go too fast, though. Make sure you only go as far as she wants to.
· If you want to [Be a Good Boyfriend] then help out with things, bags for example and things that she may find heavy.
· Things that girls love
o To talk: let her tell your stories. When she does DON'T TRY TO BEAT IT. If you have a similar story share it, but do not get competitive.
o To be important: make things about her, and keep talking about what SHE WANTS.
o To be protected: But be careful with this, because IT IS NOT YOUR JOB. Don't go overboard and act as if she is yours, she is a person and wishes to be treated like one, not like meat. Let her know that you care without calling in the Secret Service. Be careful, more independent girls might resent this.
· If you get scared take a deep breath and remember why you are doing this.
Warnings
· If the girl doesn't like you and SHE says it, don't keep pressuring her, you'll look like a stalker.
· Also remember that EVERY girl is different - therefore, there is no specific set of steps to magically get your object of affection to like you. The reason she likes you is because she likes you for who you are. So just be yourself; no one likes a pretender.
· When giving a girl compliments, make sure not to over-do it. If you've just told her that her eyes are beautiful, don't immediately compliment her smile.
· IMPORTANT-Don't complement her unless you are sincere. She'll see right through you. Point out something that makes her special and unique.
· It will be difficult to maintain this with a girl who has a boyfriend.
· DON'T LOOK AT HER BREASTS! She might feel sexually harassed, or she'll think that that's the only thing you like her for.
o One big thing about compliments. Try and compliment something that you know she worked hard on, not something like "I like your eyes". Compliment her ensemble, how she did her hair, or how radiant she looks that night.***
Steps
1. It's all about confidence! Maintain the attitude that she is lucky that you like her and if she doesn't see that, there are plenty of girls who will. If you are not that confident or too shy, you should work on this dilemma.
2. Compliment her:tell her she has a beautiful smile or beautiful eyes, but do not say something that is not true.
3. Girls like it when boys try to defend them when someone makes fun of them or threatens them.
4. In most cases, if you pick on her and pretend you hate her, then she will never like you. She'll think that you do not like her, so she won't like you.
5. Girls feel at home when you talk to them honestly and openly so try doing that.
6. NEVER say to a girl that she is hot, it might make her very uncomfortable; say she is pretty or beautiful instead.
7. Give her your phone number when you know each other well enough.
8. If she asks if she looks bad or stupid, say no, NO MATTER WHAT YOU THINK.
Tips
· A note about affection: it's good to start small, a touch on her lower spine will make her warm towards you, and quietly going up behind her to cuddle is less freaky than the full on front hug and she can easily walk away if shes uncomfortable:)
· Remember this: the best thing to do is tell her directly. She will think you are brave for admitting it.
· Give her a compliment - girls don't like too many compliments, it starts to freak them out. A guy will become the total opposite of a crush.
· Say "Hi" in the hallway if you happen to walk by her. This will tell you whether or not she wants to say hi by her facial expression.
· If she looks like she would say hi back, then go for it. But if she doesn't, try another time.
· Be friendly, but do not crowd her.
· When you smile at a girl it makes her feel great.
· After making friendly conversation with her, try holding her hand or maybe hugging her. You don't want to go too fast, though. Make sure you only go as far as she wants to.
· If you want to [Be a Good Boyfriend] then help out with things, bags for example and things that she may find heavy.
· Things that girls love
o To talk: let her tell your stories. When she does DON'T TRY TO BEAT IT. If you have a similar story share it, but do not get competitive.
o To be important: make things about her, and keep talking about what SHE WANTS.
o To be protected: But be careful with this, because IT IS NOT YOUR JOB. Don't go overboard and act as if she is yours, she is a person and wishes to be treated like one, not like meat. Let her know that you care without calling in the Secret Service. Be careful, more independent girls might resent this.
· If you get scared take a deep breath and remember why you are doing this.
Warnings
· If the girl doesn't like you and SHE says it, don't keep pressuring her, you'll look like a stalker.
· Also remember that EVERY girl is different - therefore, there is no specific set of steps to magically get your object of affection to like you. The reason she likes you is because she likes you for who you are. So just be yourself; no one likes a pretender.
· When giving a girl compliments, make sure not to over-do it. If you've just told her that her eyes are beautiful, don't immediately compliment her smile.
· IMPORTANT-Don't complement her unless you are sincere. She'll see right through you. Point out something that makes her special and unique.
· It will be difficult to maintain this with a girl who has a boyfriend.
· DON'T LOOK AT HER BREASTS! She might feel sexually harassed, or she'll think that that's the only thing you like her for.
o One big thing about compliments. Try and compliment something that you know she worked hard on, not something like "I like your eyes". Compliment her ensemble, how she did her hair, or how radiant she looks that night.***
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