It's often tough to pull away from that feeling you're having, but it is possible. It's also necessary for your mental health.
Steps
1. Whenever you start thinking about a part of your crush's body, (e.g eyes, hair, smile etc.) try and alter it into something simply horrifying. Try looking at a picture of him, and then focus on his nose. Then, imagine it exploding, and having mucus shoot out everywhere. Or you can remember their stinky breath or bad B.O (who likes someone who smells like they don't brush their teeth or shower?)
2. Whenever you start remembering a good time you had with him/her, convince yourself it wasn't all that great by remembering a much better time you experienced with someone else.
3. Cross out or erase his/her name anywhere you might have written it (e.g your notebook, your textbook, the wall of your bedroom, etc.)
4. The more you come in contact with him/her, the harder it is to stop your feelings. Try and avoid seeing that someone as much as possible, no matter HOW bad you feel you need to see them.
5. If you were once dating, or you know that he/she also had a crush on you, you should write the person a letter to get your feelings out and to (softly) explain why you think you should avoid each other, and that you need space.
6. If your crush is really an obsession but he/she doesn't know that you exist, so much the better. You can just avoid him/her without any formality.
7. Focus on your other interests. The more you're thinking about something (or someone) else, the less you'll think about your crush.
8. If you want to develop a crush on another guy/girl as a coping strategy, just do the opposite of the first seven steps.
9. Stop looking at his myspace page every five minutes. If it's a done deal and you're never getting back together with them again, consider deleting his/her off your friends list. You might need to explain to him/her why you are doing this.
10. Another thing that is helpful is just think of all the flaws of your crush has, and focus on them as much as you can until you eventually gross yourself out, and can't bear to look at him without regurgitating your lunch.
11. Think about something he/she did that was disgusting or turned you off (ex. picking food out of his/her teeth in front of you, picking his/her nose in public...etc)
Tips
· It helps if you can tell a friend who knows about your affliction. Explain why you don't want this crush anymore, and your friend will help you deal with it. He/she might even know another person who has a crush on you that you could go out with.
· Try and develop another crush. Say you always enjoyed the company of that girl/boy in your art class. Talk to him/her. Learn about him/her. You may find that person just as hot, maybe even hotter, than your old crush.
Warnings
· If your crush has a mutual crush on you, be careful! You could break his/her heart. Try to talk with him/her about how you feel first, if you can. If not ask if he/she wants to be really close friends.
Things You'll Need
· An open mind
· A strong will
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