Wanna leave a romantic note for your crush? Don't be afraid, go ahead! Read on to learn how to with confidence.
Steps
1. Before you go to school, maybe at night, take a piece of paper and write something romantic for your crush.
2. Make the note sound mysterious.
3. When class ends go to your locker and prentend to be looking through it, packing, etc. for a long time till there is little or no one left.
4. Make sure that nobody sees what you are doing.
5. Go to your crush's locker and put the paper into it.
6. The next day, go back to class and wait for your crush to go to the locker, your crush will see the note and get curious!
Tips
· Wait for any opportunity to put it in your crush's locker.
· Remember that the best opportunity is when nobody is near.
· Keep the paper hidden very well until the best time to put the romantic note in your crush's locker.
· If you don't have lockers, slip it in one of his/her books, in his/her desk or just slipped simply onto his/her chair, although make sure no one can read it, turn it upside down if it helps.
Warnings
· Be careful, don't let anyone see you, unless you want to be caught.
· Be careful not to let anyone take the paper and see what's in there.
· Make sure you go to the right locker and not someone elses.
· Some newer lockers do not have any way to insert the note into the locker except to open it. Don't open it, it is an invasion of privacy. It is better not to leave the note at all.
Friday, August 8, 2008
How to Win a Girl's Heart
Many men struggle each day watching the love of their life flock around with other guys knowing that you are the person that really does love her. Jealousy, hatred, and a feeling of loss might all come to life during this time. But what you need to do is win that person's heart.
Steps
1. Courage Most girls like guys with confidence. Just walk up to her and start a simple conversation. (Example: "Hi, waiting for a friend?") If you didn't get it the first time, try and try again.
2. Prove that you really love her and are not simply crushing or lusting for her. Ask her about herself, talk to her, don't just move in for the kiss.
3. Care for Her: Ask her about her day. It's a simple way to show her that you are interested in what she does. When she starts to talk, you must give her your full attention. Look her in the eye and don't check annyone else out! And most importent of all, don't interupt!
4. Send mixed signals. Yeah, it's a bit childish but necessary. One day call her and compliment her, then don't call or speak to her for two days. She'll wonder why you haven't called, which means you'll be on her mind. Never go so far as to compliment her one day and make fun of her the next. Subtlety is key.
5. Don't tell girls - for that matter, anyone at all - they have a flaw unless you are OBVIOUSLY poking fun at them, even then only if you know they can take a joke, and know you well enough to know how to react to your teasing. Otherwise you risk putting them off.
6. Show respect to other girls too. When she will realize that other girls take interest in you then she will automatically get to the point where you want her to be.
7. Make sure to be good friends with her friends. If her friends like you, chances are she will.
Tips
· Be a man: walk, talk and act with confidence. Be a leader. Offer her the security you can provide.
· Don't be petty: Don't complain about trivial things.
· Be exciting: always talk with vigor and energy, no matter what it is.
· Be playful: tease her a little, and when she teases you come right back at her with something funny. It's like two puppies wrestling. Very fun.
· Take pride: Dress well and be clean. Don't litter.
· Don't interrupt. Show a respect for everything and everyone. Be a good guy, understanding.
· Lastly and most importantly: Respect her above all else. She is special and unique. Don't stand for even your closest friend insulting her whether right or wrong. After all, you love her, don't you? Good luck.
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§ Also***, her left side is more emotional than her right, so flirt with her while standing on her left side.
· You should try to make her laugh... girls love a funny guy (trust me i am one)!!
Warnings
· Don't push it. If she says no, accept that.
· Do not cheat on her. You may never win her heart back and you could emotionally scar her and prevent her from wanting to be in a relationship again.
· Understand that people change. She might be all that now, but later you may not be interested.
· DO NOT try and share the same interests as the girl all the time. Sometimes girls like men who are different to them. This is why it is ALWAYS important to be yourself!
· Never put all your eggs in one basket, unless ready for a devoted marriage or prolonged relationship. Understand you may get burned.
Steps
1. Courage Most girls like guys with confidence. Just walk up to her and start a simple conversation. (Example: "Hi, waiting for a friend?") If you didn't get it the first time, try and try again.
2. Prove that you really love her and are not simply crushing or lusting for her. Ask her about herself, talk to her, don't just move in for the kiss.
3. Care for Her: Ask her about her day. It's a simple way to show her that you are interested in what she does. When she starts to talk, you must give her your full attention. Look her in the eye and don't check annyone else out! And most importent of all, don't interupt!
4. Send mixed signals. Yeah, it's a bit childish but necessary. One day call her and compliment her, then don't call or speak to her for two days. She'll wonder why you haven't called, which means you'll be on her mind. Never go so far as to compliment her one day and make fun of her the next. Subtlety is key.
5. Don't tell girls - for that matter, anyone at all - they have a flaw unless you are OBVIOUSLY poking fun at them, even then only if you know they can take a joke, and know you well enough to know how to react to your teasing. Otherwise you risk putting them off.
6. Show respect to other girls too. When she will realize that other girls take interest in you then she will automatically get to the point where you want her to be.
7. Make sure to be good friends with her friends. If her friends like you, chances are she will.
Tips
· Be a man: walk, talk and act with confidence. Be a leader. Offer her the security you can provide.
· Don't be petty: Don't complain about trivial things.
· Be exciting: always talk with vigor and energy, no matter what it is.
· Be playful: tease her a little, and when she teases you come right back at her with something funny. It's like two puppies wrestling. Very fun.
· Take pride: Dress well and be clean. Don't litter.
· Don't interrupt. Show a respect for everything and everyone. Be a good guy, understanding.
· Lastly and most importantly: Respect her above all else. She is special and unique. Don't stand for even your closest friend insulting her whether right or wrong. After all, you love her, don't you? Good luck.
o
§ Also***, her left side is more emotional than her right, so flirt with her while standing on her left side.
· You should try to make her laugh... girls love a funny guy (trust me i am one)!!
Warnings
· Don't push it. If she says no, accept that.
· Do not cheat on her. You may never win her heart back and you could emotionally scar her and prevent her from wanting to be in a relationship again.
· Understand that people change. She might be all that now, but later you may not be interested.
· DO NOT try and share the same interests as the girl all the time. Sometimes girls like men who are different to them. This is why it is ALWAYS important to be yourself!
· Never put all your eggs in one basket, unless ready for a devoted marriage or prolonged relationship. Understand you may get burned.
How to Stop Liking Your Crush
It's often tough to pull away from that feeling you're having, but it is possible. It's also necessary for your mental health.
Steps
1. Whenever you start thinking about a part of your crush's body, (e.g eyes, hair, smile etc.) try and alter it into something simply horrifying. Try looking at a picture of him, and then focus on his nose. Then, imagine it exploding, and having mucus shoot out everywhere. Or you can remember their stinky breath or bad B.O (who likes someone who smells like they don't brush their teeth or shower?)
2. Whenever you start remembering a good time you had with him/her, convince yourself it wasn't all that great by remembering a much better time you experienced with someone else.
3. Cross out or erase his/her name anywhere you might have written it (e.g your notebook, your textbook, the wall of your bedroom, etc.)
4. The more you come in contact with him/her, the harder it is to stop your feelings. Try and avoid seeing that someone as much as possible, no matter HOW bad you feel you need to see them.
5. If you were once dating, or you know that he/she also had a crush on you, you should write the person a letter to get your feelings out and to (softly) explain why you think you should avoid each other, and that you need space.
6. If your crush is really an obsession but he/she doesn't know that you exist, so much the better. You can just avoid him/her without any formality.
7. Focus on your other interests. The more you're thinking about something (or someone) else, the less you'll think about your crush.
8. If you want to develop a crush on another guy/girl as a coping strategy, just do the opposite of the first seven steps.
9. Stop looking at his myspace page every five minutes. If it's a done deal and you're never getting back together with them again, consider deleting his/her off your friends list. You might need to explain to him/her why you are doing this.
10. Another thing that is helpful is just think of all the flaws of your crush has, and focus on them as much as you can until you eventually gross yourself out, and can't bear to look at him without regurgitating your lunch.
11. Think about something he/she did that was disgusting or turned you off (ex. picking food out of his/her teeth in front of you, picking his/her nose in public...etc)
Tips
· It helps if you can tell a friend who knows about your affliction. Explain why you don't want this crush anymore, and your friend will help you deal with it. He/she might even know another person who has a crush on you that you could go out with.
· Try and develop another crush. Say you always enjoyed the company of that girl/boy in your art class. Talk to him/her. Learn about him/her. You may find that person just as hot, maybe even hotter, than your old crush.
Warnings
· If your crush has a mutual crush on you, be careful! You could break his/her heart. Try to talk with him/her about how you feel first, if you can. If not ask if he/she wants to be really close friends.
Things You'll Need
· An open mind
· A strong will
Steps
1. Whenever you start thinking about a part of your crush's body, (e.g eyes, hair, smile etc.) try and alter it into something simply horrifying. Try looking at a picture of him, and then focus on his nose. Then, imagine it exploding, and having mucus shoot out everywhere. Or you can remember their stinky breath or bad B.O (who likes someone who smells like they don't brush their teeth or shower?)
2. Whenever you start remembering a good time you had with him/her, convince yourself it wasn't all that great by remembering a much better time you experienced with someone else.
3. Cross out or erase his/her name anywhere you might have written it (e.g your notebook, your textbook, the wall of your bedroom, etc.)
4. The more you come in contact with him/her, the harder it is to stop your feelings. Try and avoid seeing that someone as much as possible, no matter HOW bad you feel you need to see them.
5. If you were once dating, or you know that he/she also had a crush on you, you should write the person a letter to get your feelings out and to (softly) explain why you think you should avoid each other, and that you need space.
6. If your crush is really an obsession but he/she doesn't know that you exist, so much the better. You can just avoid him/her without any formality.
7. Focus on your other interests. The more you're thinking about something (or someone) else, the less you'll think about your crush.
8. If you want to develop a crush on another guy/girl as a coping strategy, just do the opposite of the first seven steps.
9. Stop looking at his myspace page every five minutes. If it's a done deal and you're never getting back together with them again, consider deleting his/her off your friends list. You might need to explain to him/her why you are doing this.
10. Another thing that is helpful is just think of all the flaws of your crush has, and focus on them as much as you can until you eventually gross yourself out, and can't bear to look at him without regurgitating your lunch.
11. Think about something he/she did that was disgusting or turned you off (ex. picking food out of his/her teeth in front of you, picking his/her nose in public...etc)
Tips
· It helps if you can tell a friend who knows about your affliction. Explain why you don't want this crush anymore, and your friend will help you deal with it. He/she might even know another person who has a crush on you that you could go out with.
· Try and develop another crush. Say you always enjoyed the company of that girl/boy in your art class. Talk to him/her. Learn about him/her. You may find that person just as hot, maybe even hotter, than your old crush.
Warnings
· If your crush has a mutual crush on you, be careful! You could break his/her heart. Try to talk with him/her about how you feel first, if you can. If not ask if he/she wants to be really close friends.
Things You'll Need
· An open mind
· A strong will
How to Forget About Your Impossible Crush
So you've met someone you like but you know it will never work out. Maybe you'll never see them again, maybe they're just don't feel the same way about you. To cope with this:
Steps
1. Acknowledge that you have been rejected or that they are not interested in you.
2. Don't take it personally. You may never know why the other person rejected you. It could be for any reason, you just might not be their type.
3. Think about what that person did to you. That person rejected you. That person doesn't want to be with you, so why do you want to be with someone who doesn't even appreciate you?
4. Being close to someone can stir emotions. Try to avoid them whenever possible. If you really can't stand not seeing them for a day, then quickly glance at them for a few seconds from a VERY FAR DISTANCE. Avoid making eye contact, as that can make you change your mind, too.
5. If your crush is in a relationship with another person, don't go making life miserable for your crush or their significant other. It won't make you feel any better, and it could very well get you pegged as "That psycho girl."
Alternate Method
1. Admit you have a crush on the person and allow yourself to feel it. If you don't, you are at risk for "Romeo and Juliet Syndrome". The forbidden love possibility becomes more attractive.
2. Spend time with the person. You will see their negative qualities, which will be beyond what you can bear if you're not meant to be.
· Look at them closely. Find the physical flaws. And then think... "He/She's not that hot! What am I thinking?!" And find someone that YOU can get, and still be friends with your crush.
· Just stop talking to them! They aren't important. They are probably with a person who doesn't appreciate them ONE BIT.
Tips
· Talk to people you can trust about how you feel. Be honest with yourself. Try and figure out what exactly attracted you about this person and use the opportunity to learn more about yourself.
· Just wait it out. New people will come along, they always do. It hurts to get rejected, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.
· Remember that everyone has had at least one impossible crush in a lifetime. Be careful not to fall into believing that because one person doesn't want you, you are bound to end up miserable and alone. This is simply not true.
· Often, in retrospect people will look back to their impossible crushes and say "Ugh! What did I ever see in them?" You have built up your crush to be this image of perfection, but be realistic and accept their flaws. If you get rejected outright, be grateful for the honesty; now you can move on without asking yourself "what if?" If the other person is too spineless to reject you outright, ask yourself if you'd really want to be with a person like that anyway... probably not.
· Travel somewhere. It might help you get that person out of your mind.
· Make friends. Meet other people. Hang out with them, and have fun so you won't be thinking of that person all day!
· Ask your close friends what the flaws on that person are. Sometimes you like a person so much, you won't even see that!
· It isn't always possible, but try and find a new guy/girl. Look at that person and try and find qualities that are better then your old crush.
· Find a reputable mental health professional and speak with them. They may be able to offer you a wealth of advice.
· Sometimes listening to music helps. Relation to artist's emotions can really help you deal with someone you just can't have. Coldplay, The Fray etc. are excellent ways to deal with love or loss.
· If you're not likely to see them again and they don't know you like them (if you met them whilst on holiday for instance) forget them. That's easier said than done, but try not to dwell on it as there is no point wasting your life moping about somebody who has probably forgotten all about you. Remember that you may not have really got to know them, and may not have liked them so much if you did, so in reality you perhaps have a crush on an imaginary person based on a brief meeting with someone you were attracted to.
Warnings
· Try not to get too depressed. It will be hard, but remember that life keeps going and it's better to go at the same speed.
· This can lead to real depression. Sometimes it's better to leave it and rely on hope for that small chance.
· Don't stay alone for too long, you'll get bored.
· Don't keep thinking of the person. The more you think about them, the more likely you are to stay attached to them.
· Don't become bitter! Just because the person doesn't like you in that way doesn't mean you can be unfriendly towards them. Don't let your pride get wounded! Sometimes people just aren't right for one another! It says nothing about who you are.
· Don't let your self-esteem drop. You are still a wonderful person who deserves to be loved; this just wasn't the one who could love you in that way. You will find many though who can. So keep faith in yourself!
Steps
1. Acknowledge that you have been rejected or that they are not interested in you.
2. Don't take it personally. You may never know why the other person rejected you. It could be for any reason, you just might not be their type.
3. Think about what that person did to you. That person rejected you. That person doesn't want to be with you, so why do you want to be with someone who doesn't even appreciate you?
4. Being close to someone can stir emotions. Try to avoid them whenever possible. If you really can't stand not seeing them for a day, then quickly glance at them for a few seconds from a VERY FAR DISTANCE. Avoid making eye contact, as that can make you change your mind, too.
5. If your crush is in a relationship with another person, don't go making life miserable for your crush or their significant other. It won't make you feel any better, and it could very well get you pegged as "That psycho girl."
Alternate Method
1. Admit you have a crush on the person and allow yourself to feel it. If you don't, you are at risk for "Romeo and Juliet Syndrome". The forbidden love possibility becomes more attractive.
2. Spend time with the person. You will see their negative qualities, which will be beyond what you can bear if you're not meant to be.
· Look at them closely. Find the physical flaws. And then think... "He/She's not that hot! What am I thinking?!" And find someone that YOU can get, and still be friends with your crush.
· Just stop talking to them! They aren't important. They are probably with a person who doesn't appreciate them ONE BIT.
Tips
· Talk to people you can trust about how you feel. Be honest with yourself. Try and figure out what exactly attracted you about this person and use the opportunity to learn more about yourself.
· Just wait it out. New people will come along, they always do. It hurts to get rejected, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.
· Remember that everyone has had at least one impossible crush in a lifetime. Be careful not to fall into believing that because one person doesn't want you, you are bound to end up miserable and alone. This is simply not true.
· Often, in retrospect people will look back to their impossible crushes and say "Ugh! What did I ever see in them?" You have built up your crush to be this image of perfection, but be realistic and accept their flaws. If you get rejected outright, be grateful for the honesty; now you can move on without asking yourself "what if?" If the other person is too spineless to reject you outright, ask yourself if you'd really want to be with a person like that anyway... probably not.
· Travel somewhere. It might help you get that person out of your mind.
· Make friends. Meet other people. Hang out with them, and have fun so you won't be thinking of that person all day!
· Ask your close friends what the flaws on that person are. Sometimes you like a person so much, you won't even see that!
· It isn't always possible, but try and find a new guy/girl. Look at that person and try and find qualities that are better then your old crush.
· Find a reputable mental health professional and speak with them. They may be able to offer you a wealth of advice.
· Sometimes listening to music helps. Relation to artist's emotions can really help you deal with someone you just can't have. Coldplay, The Fray etc. are excellent ways to deal with love or loss.
· If you're not likely to see them again and they don't know you like them (if you met them whilst on holiday for instance) forget them. That's easier said than done, but try not to dwell on it as there is no point wasting your life moping about somebody who has probably forgotten all about you. Remember that you may not have really got to know them, and may not have liked them so much if you did, so in reality you perhaps have a crush on an imaginary person based on a brief meeting with someone you were attracted to.
Warnings
· Try not to get too depressed. It will be hard, but remember that life keeps going and it's better to go at the same speed.
· This can lead to real depression. Sometimes it's better to leave it and rely on hope for that small chance.
· Don't stay alone for too long, you'll get bored.
· Don't keep thinking of the person. The more you think about them, the more likely you are to stay attached to them.
· Don't become bitter! Just because the person doesn't like you in that way doesn't mean you can be unfriendly towards them. Don't let your pride get wounded! Sometimes people just aren't right for one another! It says nothing about who you are.
· Don't let your self-esteem drop. You are still a wonderful person who deserves to be loved; this just wasn't the one who could love you in that way. You will find many though who can. So keep faith in yourself!
How to Talk to Your Crush Without Being Crushed
Have a crush, but wimp out every time you want to say something to them? You're probably afraid of rejection or that you'll do something stupid. While your chances may be small, they will be zero if you don't do anything.
Steps
1. The only way to over come your nervousness is from with in. Before blabbering, think about what you want to say. Take your time but don't take too long. Find a comfortable moment to say. Remember take your time, say what you have to say, don't scream. (Summary: Be comfortable to overcome this obstacle.) *For how to win a girl's heart click here
2. Practice in the mirror. You'll want to make sure you know what you're going to say.
3. Approach your crush when he or she is alone, in a casual situation.
4. Introduce yourself and tell them a little about yourself. The important thing is to start a conversation.
5. Ask your crush about himself or herself. Try some simple questions: "What teachers do you have?" "Where do you like to hang out?" "What music do you listen to?" But, don't make it an interrogation. Just talk to them like you would talk to anyone else.
6. If you're not as nervous as some people, ask this person if they would like to hang out with you sometime, to get coffee, or go to a movie; maybe even go to dinner for something to eat.
Tips
· If your crush tries to run before class ends, take this as a hint that you need to quit; that she's/he's not interested.
· If she/he doesn't seem to want to talk to you, she/he either doesn't like you or is shy around you. Be sure which one it is before continuing.
· Practice what you're going to say or you will panic, which you shouldn't do.
· After you know what your crush likes, ask them to go with you to a place she or he would really like (such as a concert featuring his or her favorite singer).
· Don't think the worst; always think the best.
· If your conversation doesn't go as planned, don't give up, try again (that's if he/she responded at least once or twice).
· Find something that you both are interested in before you start to talk to him/her.
· Don't change for them. If you tell them you hate math and they love math, continue to hate math. People like someone who is to his or her self. Remember no one wants to date themselves. Don't mirror their likes and dislikes because it won't work.
Warnings
· Don't freak out.
· If he/she doesn't seem to get used to you, then leave him/her alone for one day, and on the next day, come up to him/her again and change the topic.
· Your crush may not feel the same way about you. In that case, you have to move on. They may change their mind later, but you have to live your life.
· If your ex wants to stay friends, and you don't, tell him/her. Don't fake being friends just for his/her sake.
· Don't get your friends to do it for you. Do it yourself.
· Don't ever talk to him/her because sometimes they don't know who you are and you want to be noticed
· Make sure that when you talk your voice isn't shaky and that you feel perfectly calm.
Things You'll Need
· Confidence
· Courage
· Your personality
· Yourself
Steps
1. The only way to over come your nervousness is from with in. Before blabbering, think about what you want to say. Take your time but don't take too long. Find a comfortable moment to say. Remember take your time, say what you have to say, don't scream. (Summary: Be comfortable to overcome this obstacle.) *For how to win a girl's heart click here
2. Practice in the mirror. You'll want to make sure you know what you're going to say.
3. Approach your crush when he or she is alone, in a casual situation.
4. Introduce yourself and tell them a little about yourself. The important thing is to start a conversation.
5. Ask your crush about himself or herself. Try some simple questions: "What teachers do you have?" "Where do you like to hang out?" "What music do you listen to?" But, don't make it an interrogation. Just talk to them like you would talk to anyone else.
6. If you're not as nervous as some people, ask this person if they would like to hang out with you sometime, to get coffee, or go to a movie; maybe even go to dinner for something to eat.
Tips
· If your crush tries to run before class ends, take this as a hint that you need to quit; that she's/he's not interested.
· If she/he doesn't seem to want to talk to you, she/he either doesn't like you or is shy around you. Be sure which one it is before continuing.
· Practice what you're going to say or you will panic, which you shouldn't do.
· After you know what your crush likes, ask them to go with you to a place she or he would really like (such as a concert featuring his or her favorite singer).
· Don't think the worst; always think the best.
· If your conversation doesn't go as planned, don't give up, try again (that's if he/she responded at least once or twice).
· Find something that you both are interested in before you start to talk to him/her.
· Don't change for them. If you tell them you hate math and they love math, continue to hate math. People like someone who is to his or her self. Remember no one wants to date themselves. Don't mirror their likes and dislikes because it won't work.
Warnings
· Don't freak out.
· If he/she doesn't seem to get used to you, then leave him/her alone for one day, and on the next day, come up to him/her again and change the topic.
· Your crush may not feel the same way about you. In that case, you have to move on. They may change their mind later, but you have to live your life.
· If your ex wants to stay friends, and you don't, tell him/her. Don't fake being friends just for his/her sake.
· Don't get your friends to do it for you. Do it yourself.
· Don't ever talk to him/her because sometimes they don't know who you are and you want to be noticed
· Make sure that when you talk your voice isn't shaky and that you feel perfectly calm.
Things You'll Need
· Confidence
· Courage
· Your personality
· Yourself
How to Deal With a Crush (for Guys)
When dealing with a crush, it's important you make sure that the girl in question can't find out about it (unless you think she feels the same way about you).
Steps
1. Don't give her any signs that you are desperately in love, but try to get to know her or even be friends. She won't like or date you if she doesn't know you.
2. If you're interested in getting a date with this girl, stay calm. Don't make a fool of yourself.
3. Get help from a friend that you believe is the most trustworthy; tell him your problem and pay attention to any advice he gives you. Since he's not in love, he's probably more clear-headed than you.
4. Act cool and collected around her. Try to pay attention to your appearance and look nice, but don't overdo it. Just be yourself.
5. Stay clean. You don't want her to think you're a slob. Make sure you smell good - no expensive cologne needed, just don't reek. Whatever you do, don't wear a ton of anything scented -especially stuff like AXE. Girls get sick of this. Believe me. The commercials about girls attacking you are wrong.
6. Before you try to talk to her, have a mental outline of what you're going to say. Know your topic, what you want to say about it, and what you want to ask her about it. Yes, you have to ask her questions, otherwise you are simply talking at her and you look dumb.
7. When dealing with a girl that has had a recent break-up, let her know that she has your support and that she can talk to you, but don't go overboard. You have to make sure that you don't sound like you are going to force her to cry on your shoulder.
8. Be confident! Girls like a guy that's confident. Be yourself no matter how hard it may seem. Sit next to her when you can! Most girls will like that...
Tips
· Keep cool; drink some water. Try to see the bigger picture and stop obsessing.
· Don't have a watery mouth. Nobody likes people spitting at them. That is a major turn off!
· Try to sound like you have emotions too, but again, don't go overboard. When she shuts her finger in her locker, instead of saying "Hmph..." or something like "Oh my gosh, are you okay?! Ambulance, someone call 911! she might have broken her finger! (bursts into tears)" Just ask if she's okay, sounding worried, but not panicked.
· Bring some peppermints around with you. She's not going to want to talk to you if your breath smells like the bad end of a donkey!
· Know what she likes. Don't dress in ripped-up clothing if she likes things to be neat. However, you still need to be yourself, and remember, the clothes DON'T make the man, but they can help.
Warnings
· Be prepared to be called names. Most people will find out about this. Don't sweat it, and don't say, "At least I can get a girl; you still have troubles getting a guy/girl!"
· Do not wear cheap sprays like AXE or TAG. Most girls can't stand them! You should try to find out if your crush likes that scent. If she does like it and try wearing it. You really can't go wrong.
Things You'll Need
· A crush
· Good, comfortable clothing
· Good Hygiene
· The ability to be yourself
· Confidence
Steps
1. Don't give her any signs that you are desperately in love, but try to get to know her or even be friends. She won't like or date you if she doesn't know you.
2. If you're interested in getting a date with this girl, stay calm. Don't make a fool of yourself.
3. Get help from a friend that you believe is the most trustworthy; tell him your problem and pay attention to any advice he gives you. Since he's not in love, he's probably more clear-headed than you.
4. Act cool and collected around her. Try to pay attention to your appearance and look nice, but don't overdo it. Just be yourself.
5. Stay clean. You don't want her to think you're a slob. Make sure you smell good - no expensive cologne needed, just don't reek. Whatever you do, don't wear a ton of anything scented -especially stuff like AXE. Girls get sick of this. Believe me. The commercials about girls attacking you are wrong.
6. Before you try to talk to her, have a mental outline of what you're going to say. Know your topic, what you want to say about it, and what you want to ask her about it. Yes, you have to ask her questions, otherwise you are simply talking at her and you look dumb.
7. When dealing with a girl that has had a recent break-up, let her know that she has your support and that she can talk to you, but don't go overboard. You have to make sure that you don't sound like you are going to force her to cry on your shoulder.
8. Be confident! Girls like a guy that's confident. Be yourself no matter how hard it may seem. Sit next to her when you can! Most girls will like that...
Tips
· Keep cool; drink some water. Try to see the bigger picture and stop obsessing.
· Don't have a watery mouth. Nobody likes people spitting at them. That is a major turn off!
· Try to sound like you have emotions too, but again, don't go overboard. When she shuts her finger in her locker, instead of saying "Hmph..." or something like "Oh my gosh, are you okay?! Ambulance, someone call 911! she might have broken her finger! (bursts into tears)" Just ask if she's okay, sounding worried, but not panicked.
· Bring some peppermints around with you. She's not going to want to talk to you if your breath smells like the bad end of a donkey!
· Know what she likes. Don't dress in ripped-up clothing if she likes things to be neat. However, you still need to be yourself, and remember, the clothes DON'T make the man, but they can help.
Warnings
· Be prepared to be called names. Most people will find out about this. Don't sweat it, and don't say, "At least I can get a girl; you still have troubles getting a guy/girl!"
· Do not wear cheap sprays like AXE or TAG. Most girls can't stand them! You should try to find out if your crush likes that scent. If she does like it and try wearing it. You really can't go wrong.
Things You'll Need
· A crush
· Good, comfortable clothing
· Good Hygiene
· The ability to be yourself
· Confidence
How to Deal With a Crush
Got a crush? Of course you do. Here's how to make it happen.
Steps
1.
Understand that it's going to take at least a bit of work to get there. Sometimes a lot. In order to accomplish whatever you want with you and that 'oo lala' someone, (whether it be kissing, dating, etc..) you can't expect them to just...fall for you. And that is the first step: Knowing where you stand.
2. Communicate with the person. It may feel awkward at first, but realize that if your crush thinks you're just trying to be friendly, he or she will probably want to talk to you. No matter how dumb you feel, eventually you're going to have to try starting a conversation about something you're both interested in. Don't start conversations if you don't understand them. (This sounds fairly obvious, but think about it: If you don't watch football, don't bring it up! It'll make the other person feel odd if he's doing all the talking.) After you can actually talk comfortably to him/her, they're going to get used to talking to you.
3. Use body language, but don't overdo it. If you're talking to a guy, licking your lips supposedly reminds them of kissing. Don't do this too much or they're going to think something's wrong with you. Playing with your hair a little bit might be a good thing too, but go easy on this one. Now, if you're a guy talking to a girl, make eye contact. Don't stare her down, but don't feel embarassed. Girls really like it when guys give them a little 'spark' by looking at them. For both guys and girls, smile. Sad people look like they don't want to be bothered. Smile when the person looks at you. Smile when you talk. And it doesn't have to be a huge, great grin, it just has to be 'a little something'.
4. Drop hints. If you want to hint to them you like them (after you've been chatting and all for a while...), you don't have to invite them to go somewhere with you if you're uncomfortable with that. Once you get confidence, you can hint something like, "Hey, me, soandso, whatshisname, whatshername, and a couple other people are going to Miniature Golf this weekend. Wanna come?" Realize that you shouldn't ask this as though you think they'll say no. Say it as if you want them to come for fun, and then that might give you a hint on how much they like you. Also, it'll make them feel pretty good that you're inviting them with a few of your other friends instead of just taking them by themselves. Perhaps after a few of this outings, it won't be so bad asking them on a real 'date'.
5. Be original with dates. Take them somewhere you're sure they'd love to go. If they're into basketball, get tickets to a game of your hometown team. If they love a certain restaurant and seem to bring it up in conversation a lot, take them there.
6. Know that the worst that can happen is that your crush says no. If you're getting completely negative vibes, the person is a jerk and doesn't deserve all the attention you're giving him or her.
7. If you realize after a while that you don't really want to go out with this person, you simply want to be friends, stop the flirting and other crap. Just treat them like you would any of your other friends. Then, unless they start loving you, you won't have a problem.
8. If you want to be secretive, just smile shyly at them whenever you see them. if you're a girl, smile softly and toss your hair a little. Be yourself but don't act to embarrassed. Just...go with it, and don't overdo it.
Tips
· If you're completely rejected and feel terrible, realize in a week you'll probably not care about them. If they don't want to talk to you or go out with you, they're not worth crying over.
· Every time a door closes, another one opens. If they say no to something the first time, you might get another chance after you know them better. Also, if you're rejected, there's hundreds of boys/girls out there who probably deserve you more than the person who doesn't want to be around you.
Warnings
· Don't be too persistent with the person. It's terribly annoying and they won't want to be around you.
· Be yourself. Don't lie about your accomplishments, personal items, or bands you like. You are allowed to be you. If you love rock music and they detest it, you don't have to argue with them why. If you say "I love Blink 182" and they reply, "Oh, I don't really like that band", you can respond with something like, "Eh, that's all right with me. Everyone has their own tastes."
· Don't be stuck-up.
· If the person you like is rude to everybody except for their friends, you should probably go fishing for a different crush.
· Dont be overly obsessed with your crush, it will seem like you don't have a life. Don't always talk about it either, it could get very annoying to your friends.
Things You'll Need
· Personal hygiene products
· Chocolate, in case you're broken down. This should only be needed for about two weeks after rejection...there's no way you can be so obsessed with a person who dislikes you.
· A smile goes a long way. Even if it's not a hollywood smile, it'll still lighten up the room more than the sun.
Steps
1.
Understand that it's going to take at least a bit of work to get there. Sometimes a lot. In order to accomplish whatever you want with you and that 'oo lala' someone, (whether it be kissing, dating, etc..) you can't expect them to just...fall for you. And that is the first step: Knowing where you stand.
2. Communicate with the person. It may feel awkward at first, but realize that if your crush thinks you're just trying to be friendly, he or she will probably want to talk to you. No matter how dumb you feel, eventually you're going to have to try starting a conversation about something you're both interested in. Don't start conversations if you don't understand them. (This sounds fairly obvious, but think about it: If you don't watch football, don't bring it up! It'll make the other person feel odd if he's doing all the talking.) After you can actually talk comfortably to him/her, they're going to get used to talking to you.
3. Use body language, but don't overdo it. If you're talking to a guy, licking your lips supposedly reminds them of kissing. Don't do this too much or they're going to think something's wrong with you. Playing with your hair a little bit might be a good thing too, but go easy on this one. Now, if you're a guy talking to a girl, make eye contact. Don't stare her down, but don't feel embarassed. Girls really like it when guys give them a little 'spark' by looking at them. For both guys and girls, smile. Sad people look like they don't want to be bothered. Smile when the person looks at you. Smile when you talk. And it doesn't have to be a huge, great grin, it just has to be 'a little something'.
4. Drop hints. If you want to hint to them you like them (after you've been chatting and all for a while...), you don't have to invite them to go somewhere with you if you're uncomfortable with that. Once you get confidence, you can hint something like, "Hey, me, soandso, whatshisname, whatshername, and a couple other people are going to Miniature Golf this weekend. Wanna come?" Realize that you shouldn't ask this as though you think they'll say no. Say it as if you want them to come for fun, and then that might give you a hint on how much they like you. Also, it'll make them feel pretty good that you're inviting them with a few of your other friends instead of just taking them by themselves. Perhaps after a few of this outings, it won't be so bad asking them on a real 'date'.
5. Be original with dates. Take them somewhere you're sure they'd love to go. If they're into basketball, get tickets to a game of your hometown team. If they love a certain restaurant and seem to bring it up in conversation a lot, take them there.
6. Know that the worst that can happen is that your crush says no. If you're getting completely negative vibes, the person is a jerk and doesn't deserve all the attention you're giving him or her.
7. If you realize after a while that you don't really want to go out with this person, you simply want to be friends, stop the flirting and other crap. Just treat them like you would any of your other friends. Then, unless they start loving you, you won't have a problem.
8. If you want to be secretive, just smile shyly at them whenever you see them. if you're a girl, smile softly and toss your hair a little. Be yourself but don't act to embarrassed. Just...go with it, and don't overdo it.
Tips
· If you're completely rejected and feel terrible, realize in a week you'll probably not care about them. If they don't want to talk to you or go out with you, they're not worth crying over.
· Every time a door closes, another one opens. If they say no to something the first time, you might get another chance after you know them better. Also, if you're rejected, there's hundreds of boys/girls out there who probably deserve you more than the person who doesn't want to be around you.
Warnings
· Don't be too persistent with the person. It's terribly annoying and they won't want to be around you.
· Be yourself. Don't lie about your accomplishments, personal items, or bands you like. You are allowed to be you. If you love rock music and they detest it, you don't have to argue with them why. If you say "I love Blink 182" and they reply, "Oh, I don't really like that band", you can respond with something like, "Eh, that's all right with me. Everyone has their own tastes."
· Don't be stuck-up.
· If the person you like is rude to everybody except for their friends, you should probably go fishing for a different crush.
· Dont be overly obsessed with your crush, it will seem like you don't have a life. Don't always talk about it either, it could get very annoying to your friends.
Things You'll Need
· Personal hygiene products
· Chocolate, in case you're broken down. This should only be needed for about two weeks after rejection...there's no way you can be so obsessed with a person who dislikes you.
· A smile goes a long way. Even if it's not a hollywood smile, it'll still lighten up the room more than the sun.
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