How to Deal With a Crush

Got a crush? Of course you do. Here's how to make it happen.

Steps
1.
Understand that it's going to take at least a bit of work to get there. Sometimes a lot. In order to accomplish whatever you want with you and that 'oo lala' someone, (whether it be kissing, dating, etc..) you can't expect them to just...fall for you. And that is the first step: Knowing where you stand.
2. Communicate with the person. It may feel awkward at first, but realize that if your crush thinks you're just trying to be friendly, he or she will probably want to talk to you. No matter how dumb you feel, eventually you're going to have to try starting a conversation about something you're both interested in. Don't start conversations if you don't understand them. (This sounds fairly obvious, but think about it: If you don't watch football, don't bring it up! It'll make the other person feel odd if he's doing all the talking.) After you can actually talk comfortably to him/her, they're going to get used to talking to you.
3. Use body language, but don't overdo it. If you're talking to a guy, licking your lips supposedly reminds them of kissing. Don't do this too much or they're going to think something's wrong with you. Playing with your hair a little bit might be a good thing too, but go easy on this one. Now, if you're a guy talking to a girl, make eye contact. Don't stare her down, but don't feel embarassed. Girls really like it when guys give them a little 'spark' by looking at them. For both guys and girls, smile. Sad people look like they don't want to be bothered. Smile when the person looks at you. Smile when you talk. And it doesn't have to be a huge, great grin, it just has to be 'a little something'.
4. Drop hints. If you want to hint to them you like them (after you've been chatting and all for a while...), you don't have to invite them to go somewhere with you if you're uncomfortable with that. Once you get confidence, you can hint something like, "Hey, me, soandso, whatshisname, whatshername, and a couple other people are going to Miniature Golf this weekend. Wanna come?" Realize that you shouldn't ask this as though you think they'll say no. Say it as if you want them to come for fun, and then that might give you a hint on how much they like you. Also, it'll make them feel pretty good that you're inviting them with a few of your other friends instead of just taking them by themselves. Perhaps after a few of this outings, it won't be so bad asking them on a real 'date'.
5. Be original with dates. Take them somewhere you're sure they'd love to go. If they're into basketball, get tickets to a game of your hometown team. If they love a certain restaurant and seem to bring it up in conversation a lot, take them there.
6. Know that the worst that can happen is that your crush says no. If you're getting completely negative vibes, the person is a jerk and doesn't deserve all the attention you're giving him or her.
7. If you realize after a while that you don't really want to go out with this person, you simply want to be friends, stop the flirting and other crap. Just treat them like you would any of your other friends. Then, unless they start loving you, you won't have a problem.
8. If you want to be secretive, just smile shyly at them whenever you see them. if you're a girl, smile softly and toss your hair a little. Be yourself but don't act to embarrassed. Just...go with it, and don't overdo it.

Tips
· If you're completely rejected and feel terrible, realize in a week you'll probably not care about them. If they don't want to talk to you or go out with you, they're not worth crying over.
· Every time a door closes, another one opens. If they say no to something the first time, you might get another chance after you know them better. Also, if you're rejected, there's hundreds of boys/girls out there who probably deserve you more than the person who doesn't want to be around you.

Warnings
· Don't be too persistent with the person. It's terribly annoying and they won't want to be around you.
· Be yourself. Don't lie about your accomplishments, personal items, or bands you like. You are allowed to be you. If you love rock music and they detest it, you don't have to argue with them why. If you say "I love Blink 182" and they reply, "Oh, I don't really like that band", you can respond with something like, "Eh, that's all right with me. Everyone has their own tastes."
· Don't be stuck-up.
· If the person you like is rude to everybody except for their friends, you should probably go fishing for a different crush.
· Dont be overly obsessed with your crush, it will seem like you don't have a life. Don't always talk about it either, it could get very annoying to your friends.

Things You'll Need
· Personal hygiene products
· Chocolate, in case you're broken down. This should only be needed for about two weeks after rejection...there's no way you can be so obsessed with a person who dislikes you.
· A smile goes a long way. Even if it's not a hollywood smile, it'll still lighten up the room more than the sun.