Having a crush on someone can make you very shy around that person and many times you aren't acquainted with your crush. The only way to do that is to communicate, and if you don't know them yet, the only way to do that is to get to know them. The first step you must take before you ask them out is by starting up a conversation. But, unfortunately, that's easier said than done for most people. If you are one of those people, this guide is for you.
Steps
1. Start a simple conversation with them. Your crush is probably in at least one of your classes at school, otherwise how would you ever see them besides maybe in the hallways? Well, if you're near them as the two of you are walking to class, ask if any homework was assigned the previous night. They will almost definitely answer you, since you asked a pretty casual question. If they say yes, say you forgot to do it and were up late watching movies (list real movies that you've actually seen of the top of your head). Then ask your crush if they have seen any of them, or maybe they'll say they saw one of them before you ask them. If your crush hasn't seen any of them, recommend one of them and say why. If your crush has already seen the movie, start talking about your favorite parts, lines, etc.
2. Now that you know you can have conversation with your crush, sit near them if possible so you can take part in the conversations they have with the people around them. Don't let the people around you exclude you from the conversations. Make comments. Ask questions. Crack jokes.
3. At any time, ask everybody who's in the conversation what school clubs they do, and you'll be able to find out which ones, if any, that your crush does. They may interest you and you could join them and you would be around your crush more and be able to get to know them better.
4. Tell people in the conversation about something exciting you're doing after school one day in class. Then people will share what they're doing after school as well (unless they are completely ignoring you, which shouldn't be happening at this point), or maybe what they always do after school. This may give you an idea of where your crush hangs out. You could go there after school and meet your crush there, and talk to them.
Tips
· Look for hints of your crush liking you back. If you can see them, ask them out. You'll probably know each other well enough by that time.
· During the first step, act casual as you are asking the question about homework, as if you would ask it to anybody from your class that passed by. That reduces awkwardness.
· Once you get to know your crush and their friends well from the conversations, talk to them at recess.
· If you are too chicken to do any of this or are just not motivated enough, bear in mind that usually the more you are around your crush in a friendly manner, the more they'll like you back.
Warnings
· Don't stay friends for too long. If you do, you'll be pressured not to ask your crush out because after you break up from each other, it'll be too awkward to be friends again.
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